"We Miss You"..... (page 3)

Odrade

I just say, "Funny how they can't call ME to tell me that, or invite me to lunch. Actually that person who says she missed me has NEVER been willing to even go to coffee with me." Said that to my Mom awhile back when she trotted out the "so-and-so misses you." End of conversation.

rocketman

Just some meandering thoughts of mine

And some very interesting thoughts I might add!

rocketman

If they truly missed you, they would come visit you, and they wouldn't say "We missed you".

This is very true. They only "miss you" on their terms. It's like someone telling you "I miss you, you must stop by to see me, cuz I'm not coming to see you".

micheal

I don't really believe they "miss you" in the true sense. I think it's more about "hey I made all the effort to go to the meeting, where were you?"

jgnat

Just wondering, what if you responded,

"That's great, I've been missing you too. I am having a bbq (barbie in Australia) on ..... wanna come?"

After the rejection, say: "Well, I guess you did not miss me as much as you thought."

What do you think?

garybuss

One Witness told me that "We miss you." line. I told her, "You had me fooled, you haven't called me in 9 years. I have the same phone number I always had.". She just kept that glazed smile on her face and stood right there like she had not just given me a truckload of crap. It's all an act. Those were just her lines in the play that's going on in her head. A phony act! GaryB

cruzanheart

Recently I got a card from a "friend" who wrote me off when she found out my kids were *gasp* celebrating birthdays. She left me with: "Well, call me if you need me." I didn't call. Finally she sent me a cute card and invited me to e-mail her, which I did, because I'd been thinking about her too and wondering how the family was. (Now, these people live a whole 10 miles from me and her mother-in-law, whom she visits frequently, is two miles from my house. She has to pass my street to get there.) She e-mailed me back with "we miss you" and told me she ran into a mutual friend at a few assembly days and she was ALWAYS asking how I was and saying she missed me.

I, too, have the same phone number I always have. I know they are able to use the telephone because they have on other occasions. So that plaintive little phrase "we miss you" just doesn't make much sense.

I toyed with the idea of telling her that the kids were in Tai Kwan Do, but decided she wouldn't be interested.

Nina

Victorian sky

Min, I've been there. I hadn't stepped foot in the KH for 3 months before I got a call from a 'concerned' sister. She said 'We miss your comments, they were so encouraging, I miss my field service buddy, where are you?' I said, 'I've been busy', then she says, 'Well you must belong in the new system because God will keep you very busy then in his service'. After I stopped gagging I said, 'Thank you for your call," She said, 'The C.O is coming this week.' She paused, I said nothing. Then she said 'Well I hope I see you there.' I told her 'I really have to go." She never called again. It's been 6 months now and not one of the elders came to visit or call (lucky me!). That's how much these people really care. I do believe that a few are sincere but the majority want your butt in that KH seat because misery loves company. Well they can forget it. Hang tough Min, and good for your wife for telling her sister the truth. - V Sky

undercover

OK, I'm gonna play Devil's advocate for one thought here:

Some complain about elders or others showing up at their door to "encourage" them and then complain because someone says, "I miss you" and live only minutes away but make no attempt to make contact. Can't have it both way, folks. Either you want em to miss you or you don't.

That being said, it all boils down to being kicked out of the club. Whether it's Jehovah's witnesses, the local country club, a college fraternity or the Mafia, a member has broken the rules or turned his back on his brethren, therefore warrants no sympathy from the remaining club members. Yea, they may use the ole "we miss you" routine to get you to rethink your position but it's not sincere. We are no longer members of this exclusive club and will no longer fit in. They will either snub us or guilt trip us.

We have actually been lucky to have kept contact with some of our closer friends that are still "active"(at least in name only). They don't guilt trip us or say the stupid "we miss you" stuff. I know they probably wonder what our "problem" is, but they choose to remain friends and put the religious issues away while together with us. The ones that say "we miss you" at the occasional meeting or assembly program just irritate me and confirm to me that they really don't care.

Odrade

I think the real issue is not having it both ways, it's that while we were in the organization our good brothers and sisters couldn't be bothered with us socially. Then we leave, and they tell us they miss us? Whatever. Plus, it is only then that they start showing up, only the elders, and only in field service. How many have had a concerned brother or sister invite us out at our convenience for a cup of coffee? I never have, although the car group has stopped by a couple of times to say they "missed me" and also "can we use your bathroom?"

So, either way... where's the love and sincerity? And dropping by unannounced while in field service does not count, because it's inconvenient, uncomfortable, and they always have an agenda. I don't believe those people who couldn't be bothered socializing with me when I was there, now all of a sudden miss my company. What they miss is having two less inactive cards in the file when the Circuit Overseer comes around to collect the numbers.

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Odrade

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