I just realized that I posted under my wife caligirl.
No one deserves to be in an abusive relationship.
have any of you been in/are in an abusive relationship
by orbison11 40 Replies latest jw friends
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jgnat
Yeah, I was in an abusive relationship, over 20 years ago. I was with him a total of 3 years (three years too long). After hours of being screamed at that I was "going to get it" when we got home, I bundled up my two babies and headed down the street while he puttered in his basement workshop. A neighbour called a cab, and I went to my parent's place. This was the third, and final time I left. The third time, I ignored his tearful pleas of remorse and promises to reform.
Here is my story
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sens
No one deserves to be in an abusive relationship.
Thats true...your right...
its weird though because at the time I thought i was cursed...at one point when things were really bad...I thought Jehovah was punishing me..I now know that was stupid to think that way...
When I told a sister in the hall I had a miscarriage (i had told them everything) she said maybe it was Jehovah who ended it.
this thread has dragged up some pretty raw and painful memorys...all i can say is just leave him whoever he is...he isnt worth the pain , just get out. please.
if you need someone to talk to or help in anyway you can email me anytime...when i went thru this I only had my mother for help, oh and a catholic priest helped me out...(nobody from the org) so i know it can be hard...
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Odrade
Yep. emotionally abusive. Fortunately circumstances just worked out that it ended. Badly, but ended. Fortunately, because I had such knowledge of how and why he got like that I probably would have stayed with him forever until I was completely broken as a person. I loved him. Finally he just broke up with me one too many times. I couldn't take it anymore. I would have ended up in the loony bin. So I just stayed broken up.
If you are in a bad situation, get out now. Even if it is financially or emotionally hard. Even if you love him with all your heart. You can't fix him. Don't wait until you are broken. You will heal that much sooner and easier if you do it now.
((((wendy))))
Odrade
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sens
i tend to attract the bad ones like a magnet.
Yer me 2 tink...
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StinkyPantz
Ditto Tink and Sens. .
My worst was when I was 14. He was worldly and I wasn't supposed to be dating him anyways, so when the abuse started, I had no one to turn to. He was a Senior, popular and gorgeous. I was a Freshman and felt honored to be dating him. He left for college (thank god), so I never had to "end" it.
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sens
((Stinky))...your sooooo lucky you got rid of him when u did...i wasnt much older...only a couple of years...
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talesin
sens,
I now know that was stupid
you were not stupid. You were just doing what you knew how. Never call yourself stupid.
You survived the best way you knew how and that was SMART. Now you are doing better and gaining even more wisdom.
{{{{{wendy}}}}} if it's abusive, leave ... ASAP ...
tal
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sens
((( tal ))) Thanks heaps xxx
((wendy)) tal is right...