Yeah--I think it would take Jehovah actually pulling me aside and saying, "Look, you need to go back because they were right all along" in order for me to go back.
And even then, I would just think I had eaten bad seafood and was freaking out.
I don't believe in God, nor in the Bible. They can change all the doctrines they want, I am pretty sure elimination of the Bible and God would be a reform they aren't willing to make.
As for personal changes...I sort of object to that, do you mean it's sort of the whole, "I just need to go out have sex, do drugs, and get drunk a few years then when my life is shambles I will go back?"
Honestly, the lifestyle didn't bug me. I didn't go out and go crazy just because it was forbidden. Nor did I stop attending because I wanted to go do those thinsg. And it is rather a slap in the face to think all jw kids leave just so they can go have fun.
(If you meant something else by that statement, I appologize for my misuderstanding)
The only thing family wise I wish that would change would have to be the fact that my parents are in denial. I would only want them to stop thinking I will return someday. Because it's not going to happen. I also know they won't give up "hope". It's what they cling to, and of course it makes me feel guilty and pressured. I don't think that will EVER go away. But nothing my parents do or say would ever make me go back, I just don't want it.
Not to sound harsh, but maybe in your own case you need to accept that the young people in your life won't come back to the "truth", because they don't want to make that kind of truth their own.