You're Going To Get A Whippin' !!!

by Perry 46 Replies latest jw friends

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  kyria

  My "beatin's" certainly wasn't as bad as some people had it, but yes.

  We can a coffee percolator cord that got used as a whip.

  My dad broke more than his share of rulers over our backsides, and once he hit me so hard that he hurt his hand. We got hit more because now we were also responsible for hurting his hand.

  I remember the mad dash to the bathroom, where I would lock the door. The only door in the house that locked. Dad would slowly unscrew the door from it's hinges and pull me out by my feet so I could get a proper beating. If I stayed in there long enough, he'd sometimes get tired and I could escape the beating that way.

  There were never bruises or blood, though. None of us thought of it as abuse, it was just "spare the rod". In fact, we laughed at the idea that children could be controlled without violence. Stupid worldly hippies, no wonder their kids all grew up to be Satanists. They spared the rod! :)

  On top of all that, my friend's parents had no qualms about beating us either!!
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  ashitaka

  kyria,

  On top of all that, my friend's parents had no qualms about beating us either!!

  This is the worst thing of all. Community punishment means that parents can go as far as their hate will drive them, and their friends, peers will not look down on them. In fact, it's encouraged and laughed about.

  I remember sleeping over a person's house one time, and I heard a couple groups of parents downstairs joking about disciplining their kids.....horrific stuff. They laughed.

  That's when I started to know what kind of religion I was in.

  People outside of the JWs generally hate abusers, and will report a parent if they know that abuse is going on. Most 'worldly' people are very modern when it comes to recognizing abuse and doing something about it. JWs, as I have seen, ignore abuse if they see it even if they disapprove, and if they agree with abusive method, will encourage it and say, "A beating now is a lot better than dying in Armageddon."

  Sick. Sick. Sick.

  ash
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  Special K

  Yeah there was a lot of violence in my family of origin..

  physical, verbal..mental..and anything else that could be thought of.

  BUT... I don't think it would have made any difference if my parents would have not became J.W.'s.

  My dad was an abuser before he became a J.W.. and after..

  I have children and have never ever hit them.. and they are great kids and young adults...

  Time outs were given when they were younger.. and responsibility for their actions was given as they got older...also, total acceptance of who they are and how much I love them.. versus.. I love you but what you have done is unacceptable and inappropriate...

  sincerely

  special k

  ps.. did you notice sly old SHOTGUN change his avatar to a guy with a WHIP...wonder if it had to do with the title of the topic.. lol..
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  Xandria

  Sorry folks cannot address this subject right now.. too many bad memories and situations.
  X.
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  Gadget

  1. Yes

  2. Mid-teens. I was having an argument with my dad and he went to hit me, I ducked and pinned him against the wall. He thought I was going to hit him, but just held him for a minute then walked away. Didn't happen after that.

  3. Probably, if not worse because my dad stopped drinking when he became a jw.
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  Lady Lee

  1. Were you ever beaten as a child? And, I mean where the parent really crossed the line, not just spanking.

  Father - NON-JW Yes until I was taken from him by the courts and sent to live with my mother

  Mother - Pre-JW and JW - Yes both before and while she was a JW

  2. If yes, at what age did it stop?

  Father - stopped when I was almost 12 and went to live with my mother

  Mother - stopped when I was alomost 18. Got married at 18

  3. Do you think it would have been the same if your parents weren't JW's?

  Both parents knew no other way to let out their anger except to beat a child so nope - proof for my mother is that she beat all of us

  Beating

  I lay there curled in a circle
  Protecting myself, offering comfort
  Tears dried and salty on my face.
  .
  Fingers tense tentatively move
  Towards my battered legs and buttocks
  Checking for the damage inflicted.
  .
  In one of dad's rages - uncontrolled violence
  Acted out on a little child
  Unable to defend herself.
  .
  Slowly, cautiously, looking for the proof
  Of how a parent can hurt a child
  And call it love.
  .
  Carefully, painfully testing the skin
  Feeling the ridges made by a belt
  On skin to young to know

  It's not her fault.
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  Perry

  Beaten no - but disciplined with extremely unnecessary force either with hand, belt, or other object - yes. I still have a scar the welts a brutal spanking left.

  Breal,

  I hate to be the one to break this to you but, "spankings" that leave bruises and especially scars IS AN ABUSIVE BEATING. No child should be put through that for any reason. I'm so sorry.

  lisavegas,

  Last one that I remember was the night I graduated from High School. This one was so bad, I called the elders myself. They didn't come. I just got whipped a little more.

  Lisa, that is being abused twice. That's terrible.

  Xandria,

  It took me many years until I could face what happened to me. E-mail me if you want to talk.

  Take Care.

  Kyria,

  My "beatin's" certainly wasn't as bad as some people had it, but yes.

  We can a coffee percolator cord that got used as a whip.

  kyria, I think being struck with electrical cords definitely quaslifies as abuse by professional definitions. You also said you wern't bruised. Unless the cord was very lightly used, I find that hard to believe.

  Again, It took me a long time to come to terms with my abuse. Mostly, others told me about it. As an adult, I asked a childhood friend about what he thought. I was totally surprised when he said, "Oh yea! We (neighborhood kids) used to come over all the time to see if you could play and we could hear someone getting beat in your house". Of course, mom and dad made sure the whole neighborhood knew we were witnesses.
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  SpunkyChick

  I didn't get spanked. But saw others in the congregations get abused...This one little girl was only 2 years old and her dad took her to the car, pulled her diaper down and beat her. How I hate the Jehovah's Witnesses.
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  ashitaka

  Lee,
  
  I found this one from my vaults. I read your poem and remembered some of mine from a long time ago.
  
  I burned a couple thousand of them in a purge I had, right before I got married. I didn't want my wife to see what I had been through, because I had to be strong for her. I only found one from that time.
  
  Toys
  
  A child, I bat the toys away;
  beaten, torn, all mercilessly borne;
  the child weeps, and weeps alone.
  
  All toys bear tears and laughter
  some are left with none.
  
  I weep upon thrones
  of shattered toys
  the plaything is broken;
  this old man weeps and weeps.
  
  All toys bear tears and laughter
  a dissembled man weeps, naked.
  
  
  I really don't write poems with a single thought, I normally run with what images are going through my head at that particular time, and they tend to be a little more abstract, but I'm sure you can see, at least a little of what I felt at that time.
  
  
  ash
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  Perry

  This one little girl was only 2 years old and her dad took her to the car, pulled her diaper down and beat her. How I hate the Jehovah's Witnesses.

  That makes me want to throw up.