by Perry 46 Replies latest jw friends
"you come home, kick your shoes off, yell at your wife, whip your kids, and tell Mom to put dinner on the table". He said the entire group fell out of their chair laughing.
Oh golly, kids say the DARNDEST things!
That's really, really... wow. That's awful on so many levels.
i got the worst whuppin of my life when i was oh...around 13 or 14. my grandma gave me a ring. it was white gold. and you know how flimsy that is. it got lost when i went on a day trip with my cousins. i didnt notice it was gone until i got back home. unfortunately, my grandma looked at my hand as soon as i got in the door. i got the monkey shite beat out of me. with my grandfathers leather belt. she whupped me all over the damn house until i was severly shaking and laying in the fetal postion in the corner of my room. after that i seriously began to think that she thought material possessions were more important than me.
I knew of a young brother about 13 who was whipped with a garden hose as punishment. He lied to the school authorities when they noticed the marks on his back. His jerk father eventually became the PO of a congregation. The boy left the borg, wonder why?
The boy left the borg, wonder why?
No kidding.
I remember that in our old hall we must've had around 30 of age kids, no lie.
There are five kids left, that I know of, that are still Jdubs. (Both from abusive and non-abusive families)
ash
That's really, really... wow. That's awful on so many levels.
It leaves me speechless to think that child abuse gets laughed over.
Ash... I was really moved by that poem. Haunting... tragic that it could have ever been written. Who can speak in full sentences anyway, when their life feels like fragments?
bebu
(((ash))) thanks for sharing
People laugh sometimes because they are uncomfortable. Sometimes abuse is too close to reality for people to be serious especially in a situation like that. But how sad there was no compassion or caring for that little boy
(((Perry)))
I'm gonna "trying" LOL* to make it short here and then I'm gonna read you :
* I've put the LOL after I've wrote it LOL AGAIN ... sorry
1. Were you ever beaten as a child? And, I mean where the parent really crossed the line, not just spanking.
Yes ... belt, whatever ... but most of the time with a cable (easy to find LOL and not LOL because it is "XXX !!!")
2. If yes, at what age did it stop?
At 11
Well most of the time I had the time to lock myself in the bathroom, she get tired after a while at first but then she find an other way ... give up for the moment ... And get me any hour or day/week after (sometimes I've already forgot about why and sometimes she didn't remember why either, but she was saying : I deserved it anyway)
The last time, for some reason too long to explain I was right, she came runing after me "in the street" with a cable, it was not the first time, but I got enough with the circus movie in the street. I've got the time to run to the house, but then I've waited for her in the living room. When she came in, she looked at me and I knew somehow that she knew I was right and that she was making it just because she needed to do it - And I said to myself ... OK I'm looking you right in between the eyes, I am NOT gonna give you my back, and lets see now if you'r gonna do it ! ... She did it ... She just couldn't old it ...
(those who know the cable know what I am talking about. A cable roll up on you from where it come to where it goes around your body, it burns your skin and you can feel the repercution from head to toe for a moment, so after a few all your body shakes, you just can' t stand it)
I was straigh proud looking at her : I've count 1 ... I'm thinking : don't care, don't move, look at her ... 2 don't care, don't move, look at her ...again and again ... 5 (I can't stand it anymore it is NOT like when you've got the time to run to a corner, give your back and hold your own body to stand the pain and that the cable can heat the wall before your body NO) My whole body trembles but I'm trying to stand on me feet and stay traight, not flex, looking at her like I'm saying "how do YOU FEEL yourself inside of your mind"... (but SHE WANNA BE RIGHT- SHE WANT ME TO ADMIT ANYHOW that I deserve it ANYWAY) I know she feels bad, but still she is looking at me, and she is telling me : CRY !!! WHY DON'T YOU CRY !!! I WANT YOU TO CRY ... IF YOU DON'T CRY YOU'LL TAKE MORE ... several times waiting for me to cry ... 6 ... I don't know if she did it on purpose or what but the next one went from my left harms to my back to my right shoulder to my face ... so of course I bended back holding my face for a moment I have to stay like that I just couldn't stand up (contracted) ... Now SHE is crying ... she wants to see my face and I don't want her to touch me, after I while I've stand up and went to the bathroom to have a look, cause it burns like hell on the head (and now the pain that I've felt on my body seems like nothing!!!) and it was JUST on the left above corner of my face that I felt it at first but also next to the eye.
In front of the miror I couldn't just take off my hands at first because I had to hold my head to stand the pain (she was crying behing me trying to get my hands off) I've got them off to push her out ... while I got her in front of me she Yield while she looked at my face ...horrified ... holding my face in her hands for me to not look in the mirror but I've pushed her again and ... A quarter of the skin of my face was purple from above almost all around my eye to the chick (like blood under the skin with weird marks and bubbles but just a tiny part cut off) ... She didn't want to go anywhere (hospital or wathever) to hill me because she knew what she did was wrong ... I saw how she felt bad and I pity her ... I told her ... Well, try anything you can* NOW by youself, I don't care myself, I JUST HOPE I WILL STAY LIKE THAT just FOR YOU TO REMEMBER WHO YOU ARE **...
* well she did a good job with some medecine and clay
and it is not the worse ... my father did worse - I was 6 almost 7 (nothing to do with rape/no confusion please) And while I could still crying calling for my mother to saved me - she didn't move from where she was in the next room (maybe to not see) - she didn't try anything even said a single word from the bigening to the end that I don't remember ... (and finally that was the worse !!! I cause it doesn't hill, BOTH SIDES, I was expecting her to at least, try something even saying a single word like : "STOP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!")
3. Do you think it would have been the same if your parents weren't JW's?Yes she would have been like that anyway ** ... My mother have been raised like that by her parents (14 kids) and grand parents in knowing that her mother gave her birth after 50 I guess 52 but not sure. So it was just like that, and they didn't know how to raised kids otherwise, means actually at least just RESPECT THEM it you them to RESPECT YOU.
** But I think somehow it made it worse because she was always tired trying to be perfect so she had to lie to herself cause of course she failed at this exercice like everybody SO MORE PSYCHO ISSUES
Horrible. Simply horrible.
That is not love. That is sick.
I guess if the bible teaches that you can beat your kids, you can go stir-crazy, eh? The dubs are sick.
(((frenchbabyface)))
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