I find it perplexing

by SheilaM 29 Replies latest jw friends

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  talesin

  My self-destructive behavior took a different form...I took out my pain on myself...in an indirect way, that is what Hamas is doing.

  So true, and ditto for me.

  Hard to know 'what to do', and it must be hard on the 'mods' to cut him off temporarily delete him.

  Maybe it will help if I remind you all that he is reading this right now and it is probably helping him, we'll see him back soon.

  As Valis said, though, abusive behaviour is not acceptable. It's hard to cut off temporarily delete someone when you know they are hurting.

  so to Hamas - please work on your behaviour so the group can have you back - if you are angry, go out in the backyard and pound the ground, that's what I do.

  No matter how much pain you are in, it is not acceptable to lash out at others.

  We are probably all guilty of it (at one time or another), so don't feel guilty Hamas, try not to be hurt, just change your behaviour!

  xo

  tal
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  berylblue

  Skeptic was deleted? I am SO out of it...
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  Satanus

  Hamas was acting like a spoiled kid throwing tantrums, not one, many. If he insists on acting like a spoiled kid, disregarding the consequences, then what do you expect? I don't find what happened to him perplexing at all. His wife has a problem, and he takes out his frustrations here, expecting the whole board to give him centerstage treatment. When it doesn't happen, he lashes out. Maybe he should do as you did - in his front yard.

  'Course, i'm not saying he's a bad guy.

  SS
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  Angharad

  Hard to know 'what to do', and it must be hard on the 'mods' to cut him off.

  I wouldn't say that people are 'cut off' when they are deleted, I know Simon has been in email contact with Hamas a few times since his deletion, hopefully things can be resolved soon. This has been the case with lots of people that have been temporarily deleted to cool off.
  

  It is very rare that someone is removed from the site and never allowed back
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  berylblue

  Welle beryl...there has to be some personal accountability right? Just because you exhibit self destructive behavior does not mean you should be able to engage in it around others ad infinitum.

  Valis, I never said I didn't think he should not have been deleted. If I expressed myself poorly, I'm sorry. I am trying to say that I feel frustrated because I understand why he does the things he does. The moderators can not and should not allow hurtful behavior; I am merely stating that I know that he is hurting and perhaps why he acts out in that manner.
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  SheilaM

  Hamas was acting like a spoiled kid throwing tantrums, not one, many. If he insists on acting like a spoiled kid, disregarding the consequences, then what do you expect?

  SS: I believe that is what I said

  Tale: Punching bags work great also

  Angahard: I understand and am glad they are communicating

  Valis: Your always right so just shut up

  Beryl: ((((((((hugzzzzzz))))))))
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  Big Tex

  Hamas is dealing with a lot of issues, one of which is quite a large amount of anger, which from what I've read of his life I think is justified.

  But I also think Valis is correct in that there must be personal accountability. Part of recovery is learning boundaries, i.e. what is and is not appropriate behavior. There is a time and place for everything, anger/language included. I learned fairly quickly where and how to express myself when I was dealing with my rage. And so must Hamas. It's a learning experience.

  I've said it before and I'll say it again, I think Simon and the Mods (sounds like a rock group; And now appearing live at Wembley, Simon and the Mods!! ) are doing a great job. It's tough when things fly at you at 90 m.p.h. (or is it k.p.h.?) and you've got to make a snap decision. I really empathize with the difficulty of the job they have. Keep up the good work.
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  Valis

  *LOL* Sheila...I know......BTW you ready to turn the other cheek?

  I am merely stating that I know that he is hurting and perhaps why he acts out in that manner.

  beryl...I know what you are saying. I've been around for a while and whenever I see dust ups between users in VT or RT I wish I could fix things and not have bad feelings... s'ok

  Sincerely,

  District Overbeer
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  berylblue

  I never said I didn't think there should be personal accountability . Never.
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  SheilaM

  ....BTW you ready to turn the other cheek?

  Noooooooo errrrrrrrr still have the bruise thank you on the first cheek