Loss of a Jehovah’s Witness who I considered a friend

by Fallen_Winter 31 Replies latest jw friends

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  Fallen_Winter

  @Longlivetherenegades,

  It’s interesting because a Jehovah’s Witness never states at the beginning that the goal is for the student to become a Jehovah’s Witness. Most individuals will not accept a Bible Study if they are told that they are expected to become a Jehovah’s Witness. I found out that the goal was to become a Jehovah’s Witness after I began the study. When I began to study, I really believed that what was being taught to me was the truth. It was when I began to progress in my studies and I was not meeting the demands of my Bible Study Conductor that I began to question what I was being taught. The level of control/authority that she had over me was questionable. I am not a Jehovah’s Witness. Therefore, placing an expectation on me to attend meetings consistently is not realistic. Nor was it realistic of my Bible Study Conductor to question me as to why I didn’t attend the meeting. As a Jehovah’s Witness, my Bible Study Conductor is expected to attend meetings and to respond to Elders, but me, I know that I don’t have to meet those expectations nor respond to such questions. However, I already know what the results of my behavior are going to be. My Bible Study Conductor will end the study. It’s not an end that I am looking forward to but I am not able nor willing to meet the demands of the Jehovah’s Witness religion.
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  truthlover123

  Unfortunately, being a "friend", visiting, helping, driving to meetings, studying- is what is done to "groom" a person to accept the "truth". The closeness is part of bringing a person into the hall, getting them baptized, maybe being a friend for a year or two, working with them out in service then things change. The love bombing you received when you first came to a meeting as a "person of the world" was another tactic to show "love to you. This fades over time and you find you are on your own, unless you go pioneering.- the ultimate goal for a single person - using your time and money and vehicle voluntarily to find more "friends"- unless of course,, you want to go to bethel to work as a volunteer, and sign a no monies contract.

  You are wise to step back and take a hard look- this is a bait and switch deal - if you do anything wrong - once baptized, you can be disfellowshipped and then no one will speak with you until you "repent" and come back to the meetings.