Are You Surprised By How Few Witnesses Have Called You??? (page 2)

codeblue

Minimus: I can't believe that the body of elders didn't try to find out about your absence, epecially since your were part of the good ole boys club!!!...hmmmm...that is their JOB...

Tinkerbell: Unbelievable mentality---you summed it all up.

When one sheep leaves the fold they are suppose to be "precious"...The lack of love is obvious in all situations posted here. If they really cared they would do so in a loving way...not give back photos or ignore the missed person.

Fortunate for me I am new here...yes I did try to go to meetings, and field service, handed out my phone number to several. The only type of visits I got was before I faded: I was a field service call. Geez, that is their way of welcoming you to the KH...treat you like a field service call...........I need friends not a routine visit!!!

So, since I have faded only one sister has stopped by...but we lived with them for a couple of months in transitions with the move up here. (the only kind hospitable people in the KH)

One elder's wife, I had sent aget well card to before the Memorial, she just called me 3 weeks ago to thank me because she said she hadn't seen me at the meetings. wow...took her a long time to notice!!!

The terrible elder (from that horrid welcoming visit in Feb) stopped with the CO on the 4th of JUly...I refused to go to the door because they insulted me with almost 3 hours of avoidance in MY HOME on that welcoming visit.

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rocketman

Must be the note I put up by my doorbell telling elders not to call. It seems to have worked, after repeated visits by elders (6 times in two months) unannounced, of course.

As far as other jws, I got one call from a friend of mine, and one person stopped by while on her way home.

But, I must say, I like it this way, and I think that, if many of us had a choice between frequent calls and infrequent calls, we'd choose the former, wouldn't we? I know I would.

SadElder

Surprised? I would be surprised if they call. Isn't it interesting, having been a "pillar of the church" so to speak both financially and spiritually, that as I've reduced my involvement I haven't been on anyone's list of concern. Recently I had emergency surgery and was hospitalized for more than a week. Saw two elders from my hall. During my eight week recuperation had two elders visit and one of those was shamed into it. No other elders bothered to call either.

It?s been 6 months since I turned in a FS report and not one word. Since I resigned as an elder about two years ago I have not uttered one word in any meeting, nor stepped foot on the platform, nor visited a book study. Yet not one word. Amazing? I think not. The "love of the greater number" has indeed cooled off. Yet if someone?s in trouble or needs hospital / medical advice I sure do get a phone call real quick. I?m becoming less and less available.

invictus

Since we stopped going to the meetings - four months ago -NO ONE called, only elders came twice but we did not open. We did`nt hide either, they could see us through the window.So far we are not DF or DA, yet nobody wants to have anything to do with us. Then just yesterday I called what used to be my best friend. I just wanted to let her know that we are still considering her and her family as friends and we would help them if they need us.She said she is feeling the same towards us;so I asked why is she not calling?

Her answer was that because we are not coming to the meetings we are turning our backs to Jehovah and that is the same as turning our backs to her ?!, and because she cannot stand the pain we are causing her( ?) she is imagining that we are just far away and she cannot reach us ,so that is why she is not calling.My head just hurts of all the nonsense she told me so in a way I am glad that nobody calls.

They would just be anoying - since 1997 I was willing to talk and explain how I feel and why I feel hurt, betrayed and mislead by wt organization - and nobody was taking me serious - " in Jehovah`s due time you will get the answer" was what they would comfort me.Well now I make the rules and I am finding my own answers. I really do not need jw "friends"- I am shunning them!

Invictus

blondie

,the woman I used to study with ,slide photos of myself and my daughter under the door.lol...

Boy, is that cold, Shera. All she had to do was throw them away but she wanted to HURT you.

We have about 7 to 10 people call at first but now nothing which is good. I just don't want any unannounced visits. That proves to me they don't care and they are trying to CYA for the CO.

You find out that your social life revolved around people that were your "friends" only when you we a good JW going to the meetings. Ask yourself how many people at the KH invited you to their home, how many accepted your invitations to come to your home, how many noticed when you were ill or in the hospital.

I got better treatment from the "worldly" people at work.

Blondie

iiz2cool

I got more calls in the 5 months I was inactive then I did in the last 10 years when I was active. (that's not including calls I received when they were trying to get free computer help or money). I was originally just going to do the fade thing, but their constant nagging pissed me off and I wrote my letter.

Walter

shera

she cannot stand the pain we are causing her( ?)

It is all about them,dont't matter how much we have been hurt...

blondie

Ain't that the truth, Walter.

I got more calls in the 5 months I was inactive then I did in the last 10 years when I was active.

Blondie

Gretchen956

I can't really answer the surprised they don't call thing, because none of the dubs in this area would know me from anyone else. But I am surprised that for the last four years we have not had one JW contact us in the field service. Are they no longer engaged in that activity? I have been out for 13 years so I don't know all of their latest "new light". But, I do remember, over and over and over (ad nauseum) how they would say that they would be engaged in the preaching work until armeggedon and I haven't seen signs of that lately either.

And I was kinda looking forward to telling them I'm an apostate so that I could look at their reaction. dammitall anyway.

Gretchen

Poztate

I would have been suprised if any dubs had called on me. I created a BIT of a scene at the hall on my way out. I confronted a visiting CO and the PO over the flip flops in the DF'ing policy.The change in policy affected my family relationship but the answer was that this is the way it is and don't ask any questions,just follow blindly along. I stormed out,very upset and since this was just before the meeting started everyone knew what was going on.

Had a visit from the CO and PO the next day but the only answer they had was don't ask questions and "wait on Jehovah" for a solution.I told them that that wasn't going to happen and that was the end of any visits from anyone in the cong.

The strange thing was that my wife,who was loyal to the org.was avoided almost as much as I was. Almost all the social invites dried up as most invites were for "family" gatherings and I wasn't part of the "gang" anymore.She got just a little grumpy over that but I pointed out that I was not stopping her from going out,but that her pals just did not want to be with her in her "single state".Amazing how quick the "love" from the cong.is switched off.

Are You Surprised By How Few Witnesses Have Called You???

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