Being too picky>>>

by Frantic 42 Replies latest social relationships

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  Xena

  Some women have adopted a traditionally men's viewpoint of wanting nothing more than sex from the opposite sex. They like their lives the way they are and don't want men and/or relationships with men mucking about it in, but they do still enjoy sex. So they have sex with a guy and dump him moving on to the next one....you know like some guys use women. Funny thing to watch men getting back what they have dished out over the years isn't it?

  Not all women or men are like this so I would suggest you keep looking....
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  Frantic

  french, u know the saying "opposites attract", lets just say I attract the ones that are easily obtainable. You've highlighted in red they'll just move right along to the next guy.
  
  In light of this, because I attract the opposite, they only want casual sex, something Im not after.
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  frenchbabyface

  
  
  Well is it about those you want or those who are attracted to you ? please do you know how to deal with those you are attrated to or what ? ...
  
  Aren't you big enough to look in the right places ? and maybe work on it to get what you seems to want ?
  You want them falling into your arms maybe ? NO apparently ... so ? ... what is it all about ? ... what do you want exactly?
  
  Did you think about that maybe you do not attrack women you are interested in and WHY ???
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  Frantic

  I cant tell you why I dont attract the right people for me. Location? probably, i do attract the younger girls, which is great, its just they aint legal, and well Im not going to jail...lol
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  frenchbabyface

  i do attract the younger girls, which is great, its just they aint legal, and well Im not going to jail...lol

  Yeah not a good idea ... no mixed jail, so no young women in jail to enjoy any way ...
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  Frantic

  Im glad ur happy with that response.
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  obiwan

  Yea and they are married to someone else apparently

  That's true, the good ones don't last long. I would venture to say, that if you dated a couple of these women you meet, word would get out on what kind of guy you are. And if the women think your one of the good ones, they would be lining up at your door.

  But they will never know if you keep throwing away any and all women you THINK are sluts. The funny thing is, all people, men and women alike, have different ideas on what love is. Just because a woman wants to sleep with you, doesn't mean she's a slut, but it just may mean to her that's how a relationship starts. She's never been taught any better. YOU can change that by showing her what caring and love really is. When you show her what it's really all about, she will fall in love with you even more. No amount of sex could do any better. If you can touch a woman deeply emotionally, then your golden. Women want stability and realiabilty. If you provide that kind of example to a woman, that draws them even closer.

  Sometimes all that people need, is to be shown how things work. Once that happens, then they too will have those same high standards in the future.
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  asleif_dufansdottir

  Frantic,

  Don't misunderstand me about something...I know there are young women...lots of young women...who do, in my opinion, have wayyy too many sexual partners, and act in a way I don't think is particularly wise. And I think the same thing about the guys.

  I'm a grad student at a university that is known as one of the top 'party schools' in the nation...I've been in the bar area by the campus and I've seen young girls almost too drunk to walk flashing each other and everybody in the vicinity. I've heard girls talk about sleeping with everybody on the first date, like it's a good thing. They're just acting with that reckless abandon and general lack of good sense that is common to college-aged young people. I think sex should be taken more seriously than that.

  Just because I think women should be able to have sex when they want to does not mean I think there is some benefit to sleeping with everybody. I, personally, wouldn't want a sexual partner that has been on more rides than a Disney attraction, either. That is not the same thing as thinking that it's ok to have the idea that 'nice girls' that you marry should be virgins or as close to it as possible.

  Somebody else pointed out (sorry, can't remember who at this point) that maybe the girls have just been led to expect that sex on the first date is 'just the way it is.' I know when I was young (and stupid), I did have moments of thinking, "well, if I said yes to that guy, I'll have to have really good reasons or be expected to say yes to any other guy" and thinking that was reasonable! (dummy me) Saying yes to some people and no to others is perhaps something young women have to learn.

  It's just that I can't be a hypocrit about this issue. I have lots of casual, recreational sex...it just happens to be with my husband. Matter of fact, since I had a tubal ligation, the only sex we have is recreational...so I can't condemn unmarried people for doing it. And I won't suggest they get married if they're horny. How many times have people on this board bitched about dub kids getting married way to early just because they want to have sex??

  But I still think you're looking for the outside package that comes along with the behavior you don't approve of.
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  frenchbabyface

  Frantic : Im glad ur happy with that response.

  
  Well to be honnest I really do think that location ... (in lots of cases) ... can have something to do with it ... (for lots of reasons) ... so it can make sense ... if it is about that, it means that the problem is not about the girls it is about where you live where you look (what do you think ? you know better for yourself I guess)

  Best wishes anyway !
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  avishai

  Ya know, this topic is sooo funny. Yes, I have been around a bit, have dated a "few" women. The ones who cheated on me were almost invariably young, & sexually inexperienced. A case of "virginitis" I call it. The most faithful? Older, and sexually experienced. The ones who already have it "out of their system" are far more likely to know what they want, than a young virginal chick. And are a lot lmore fun, in and out of bed. This is regardless of looks, I've dated women, models, actresses that were very faithful, & cool, & vice versa. I've dated fat, not so attractive women that were total promiscuos, evil, cheaters. And vice versa. Meet people, not their pasts. And if you don't wanna bonk them on the first night, well, don't. Wait a month or two. Promiscuous or not, if their worth it, they'll wait.