My story of becoming a circuit overseer after Kin Suen visited our congregation.

by ExCircuitOverseer 41 Replies latest jw friends

  • Sea Breeze
    Sea Breeze

    Enjoyed reading your story ECO!

    My wife and I are now “faded” and we are undercover apostates doing our best to wake up others.

    So glad you found someone you could relate to and start a family before it was too late.

  • Rivergang
    Rivergang

    Ex Circuit Overseer,

    Out of curiosity, was your experience one of the “Road to Damascus” type - or was it more accumulative, over a longer period of time?

  • ExCircuitOverseer
    ExCircuitOverseer

    Hi Rivergang. I had to look up “Road to Damascus.”

    Several things woke me up, one was how we dealt with CSA. I had run-ins with the Branch after disagreeing about several CSA cases. I’m glad I told the parents involved to go to the police. Plus Armageddon didn’t come year after year. Plus I saw so many shenanigans by the elders. I felt fantastic my first three years in the circuit work but gradually became disillusioned. I started to feel empty. I said so many times how close we are to the end and it just didn’t come. I decided it the year 2000 came I would leave my assignment, so when it came I did. After I came back to the US I served as an elder but after sacrificing over a decade of my life in foreign service no one cared about my experience. The elder body hardly preached, they didn’t care. I did care and I kept trying. I told them to their face they needed to be more zealous and they became resentful. When I made some errors of judgment they recommended my removal as an elder. That was a definite moment for me. I remember realizing there was no “Holy Spirit” there. Just men who were mad at me. I appealed my deletion and New York Bethel let me stay as an elder for the time being, which angered the body of elders even more. Finally I accepted their recommendation and was deleted. Meanwhile I came on here and posted under the name Bonafide. I was shaking, physically shaking every time I read posts on here and eventually I started posting also. My old posts are horribly immature and ridiculous but that is how I really used to think. So it’s hard to say, I would say now I slowly woke up. Glad I did though. I have to work three jobs and my wife works a lot also and I am an older dad for sure, but we love every second with our girls even though our house is loud and crazy. I have such a strange background my workmates have a hard time understanding me and I am still learning not to always look for a groups approval and not be judgmental. My experience is nowhere near how bad others have had it. I just thought I would write down how strange it was to be at that Dome assembly hall 25 years after being interviewed and feel so ripped off, so cheated. Glad I woke up and have a family now. My mother doesn’t speak to me but that’s on her. We have our wonderful little family.

  • Touchofgrey
    Touchofgrey

    Glad you and your family are free ,took me time to adjust and recover from a high control group and being lied too for most of our lives.

  • dropoffyourkeylee
    dropoffyourkeylee

    Thanks for sharing your life story!

    I don't know of Suen, but I have observed a similar pattern many times in the JW world. The WT has a way of attracting a certain type of person who has a phenomenal way of reaching people. It is definitely a gift, and these ones would make great salesmen or politicians. They have a way of speaking with the greatest of confidence and can sell iceboxes to to the Eskimo. It's more of a motivational sales skill rather than a religious one. The WT would have collapsed many times over the years if not for these slick salesmen.

    Other organizations have the same sort of person. I watched a video recently about a MLM scheme from one of their motivational sales meetings, and I thought, Yep, it's the same thing.

  • WingCommander
    WingCommander

    Thanks for sharing your experiences. I was born in 1980, and wished I could have lived it as a teenager. You could have, but instead were stuck in a cult!

    What's mind-blowing to me, is that you are one of the rare few who 100% followed "The Faithful & Discreet Slave", and instead of "The Best life Ever!" you got a complete shit sandwich. Stuck in some 3rd World shithole for years on end. Slaving away for free for a multi-billion Corporation who can't even be bothered to buy you a decent car, or provide a decent living wage for your hard work. Meanwhile, THEY live like Kings and are housed, fed, and served on the rank-n-files dime. If you were a CO in the USA, you'd have been given a stipend and a car! (on top of Green Handshakes)

    Truly, you gave your all, especially your "youth", and for what? False hope and empty promises. Truly, fuck this cult!

  • Lets Think
    Lets Think

    Your story is well written and powerful! It's funny how so many that "wake up" have that moment of clear thinking where they see the organization for what it is. Here is my story https://www.jehovahs-witness.com/topic/198495/newbies-story

    Since that writing 14 years ago I am Now fully out and have not been to a meeting for about 10 years

  • liam
    liam

    I’m really sorry that you just happened to be born at the wrong time.

    All my family was also scammed of their youth. My parents have already stopped going to the meetings and field service. My dad is in bad health and my mom worries a lot. It ‘s hard for them because it’s not easy if you don’t start early to build a life. But I help them a lot, so they really don't have to worry about the future.Still they worry!

    I on the other hand I was born at the right time. I was born in the Internet age where people World Wide can share their knowledge with each other. Because of that I was never baptized and was able to live a normal life without the Watchtower getting their hands on me.

    Getting scammed early in life is just part of our life as a Human Species.

    The reason being is because humanity is still ignorant about most things, and we continue to hand down false information to our children and they to their children.

    For how many Hundreds of thousands of years did we believe that to appease the Gods we had to sacrifice another human being?

    How many thousands of years did we believe the Sun Rotated around the earth?

    Thousands of years ago, several men throughout the centuries compiled a collections of stories about an Omniscient, Omnipotent, Benevolent Creator that could grant EVERLASTING LIFE. And humans being human did what they do best..........Scam people for control and monies with the idea that "They" have figured out what God wants us to do!

    The Catholic Church did everything possible to keep these collections of books, (Bible) out of hands of regular people. It was a matter of control for power and monies.

    But in time, with the printing press, the Bible started becoming available to everyone. But it Didn’t matter much because most people couldn’t read.

    Flash forward hundreds of years when schools are organized and we get to a point where most people can read.

    By this time there are thousands of Christians Sects and major Christian religions. Each with a different story on what it takes to be saved and LIVE FOREVER. The Watchtower was one of many, but with a different twist.

    But it wasn’t until the 1990s that the Internet took off and allowed people to share their knowledge with one another and Start exposing ALL Christian Religions for what they really are. …..Human Interpretations of what GOD Demands based on ancient stories by people we never met.

    And here we are now, at a point where every succeeding generation is learning the truth, that Religious Stories are just that…………..Stories! It was human attempts to explain why were are here, what’s our purpose, and You can live forever!

    In our case, Most Jehovah Witnesses are now waking up at an early age. Thanks to the Internet where Knowledge is abundant and Religions like the Watchtower can’t Hide their Hypocrisy and evil intents.

    The Watchtower is dying. In another 100 years there will be so much knowledge about the Bible being what it actually is, just a collections of Human Stories. And all the generations of people that hold the Bible as the word of God will finally be Gone.

    The world will be a better place. There won’t be any more victims who will be trapped at an early age to slave for a group of religious men, that promise the slaves Everlasting Life, if you donate your LIFE to their cause.

    The thing that really makes it bad for people who are captured by the Watchtower in their youth is that our life span is too short. I’ve had adults tell me that you really don’t get smart until you hit your 50s. But by then you lose all your energy and health you had at 18.

    So you may be 60-70-80 or 90 but still feel like you’re only 18……...until you look in the mirror.

    THE TRAGEDY OF OLD AGE IS NOT THAT ONE IS OLD……….BUT THAT ONE IS YOUNG!

  • I quit!
    I quit!

    What a story. I'm glad you were able to get out and make a life for you and your family. I can only imagine how hard it must have been to navigate the real world after spending so time in a fantasy world where you learn very few real-world skills. I hope you and your family have a great Christmas or whatever it is that you celebrate.

  • FedUpJW
    FedUpJW
    The elder body hardly preached, they didn’t care. I did care and I kept trying.

    As my dad said and a saying I adopted, "It's tough to be smart in a world of dumb people!"

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