SEX: As a JW, Were you ever thisclose to having sex and then chickened out?

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  • franklin J
    franklin J

    I was a good little JW full time pioneer boy, who was too chicken to even think about getting laid. I did, however, date eligible sisters in my quest for the "perfect" mate ( whatever that meant). One young sister who was was about 2-3 years yonger than me, and was not from a theocratic family, accepted a date to go to the movies. It was a hot summer nite and we ended up after the movie at a local beach, not to go swimming. Of course the beach was deserted and we made it hotter. Low and behold, this young sister ( who was a real "looker") had a bit more experience than me and caused me to clam up with that damn christian conscience!! As a young ministerial servant. I was confused --thinking that I should possibly be counciling this girl ( HA HA--what an pious stuck up ass I was!)

    Lo and behold, 2 years later when I broke from the Jws, and started my colIege years, ( therapy and deprogramming ) got laid at age 22, a bit late in life for this sort of thing. And when I realized what I had missed out on all these years--I made up for lost time and literally left no stone unturned---I cannot deny it--I had great fun. I was not into breaking any hearts, just having fun, and all of my partners seem to think the same way. No more christian concscience. Phew.

    This was also before time of AIDS. The biggest concern back then was getting your partner pregnent.

    From this point in my life I can look back and say that sex is meant to be enjoyed, with no guilt. It happens when it happens and provided that it is between two consenting adults, is none of anyone elses business One more whack at the JW teachings I was raised with.

  • doodle-v
    doodle-v

    wow, these stories should go in a book!

    you know, like the stories they have in playboy or hustler

    JW--"almost sex" teasers! hehe

  • adamgraziano
    adamgraziano

    I too tried to have a couple of girlfriends in High School, but as soon as anything sexual started happening I ended the relationship immediately, leaving the girl and I confused and hurt. I avoided girls like the plague after that ( I just couldn't bear the guilt trips that came with the sexual feelings I would have).

    A confused little BORG was I.

    : -(

  • drwtsn32
    drwtsn32

    The most risque thing I ever did as a young dub was holding a girl's hand out in field service.

  • RAYZORBLADE
    RAYZORBLADE

    No kidding, I was almost married back in the early 1980s.

    It's odd, on one hand, you can be given suggestions/counsel about dating at 18/19, as too young, but....'if you are inflammed with passion', sometimes.....well.....away ya go..."Here comes the bride (cover your ears while I sing this song) "

    I chickened out of the engagement. As some of you know, you know what the scoop was. But, because I was a loyal and devout believer, I got baptized, and then went to dating a non-baptized woman (her family were JWs/relatives were MS/elders). We got close a couple of times, and I'd want to hold her hand, and of course, I wanted to kiss her so badly. But, Mr. Theocratic that I was, I backed down.

    Secondly, my sexuality (yadda-yadda), I honestly thought being a JW, would cure me. Doh!

    So, something, somewhere saved my precious butt from making a huge mistake that not only would have impacted me, but a very innocent sister/woman. Not cool!

    Oddly enough, the things I have heard people suggest. They'd have rather I married this young woman, hoping it would have 'fixed me'.

    Yet, on the other hand, had I done that, I would have been accused of 'misleading' her.

    Catch my drift? I couldn't win either way.

    So......there I was pioneering there fall of 1983, then tada! I gave in.....no, it wasn't a sister...NO, it wasn't a brother either...gag! But well, I finally gave in.

    20 years later, here I am.

    Whew! what a journey that has been.

    But still, I can relate to this 'feeling' you talk about, because I'd chicken out, all the time. But on November 22, 1983: I didn't.

  • Euphemism
    Euphemism
    But on November 22, 1983: I didn't

    Would that be V-V day? Victory over virginity?

  • RAYZORBLADE
    RAYZORBLADE

    Actually my first ever sexual experience: 13

    It wasn't with another JW, let me tell you.

  • Euphemism
    Euphemism

    My mistake!

  • kitties_and_horses_oh_my!
    kitties_and_horses_oh_my!

    Um, doc, remember the alley near my old house? But no, nothing too risque, although guilt was rife for the mere thought of what I wanted to do...

  • drwtsn32
    drwtsn32
    Um, doc, remember the alley near my old house?

    That was YOU!??!

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