ROFL
You should of suggested that when you were an elder.
What Regrets Did You Have Because You Were A Witness?
by minimus 47 Replies latest jw friends
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blondie
The past cannot be changed, the future is still in your power.
When we fill our hearts with regrets over the failures of yesterday and with the worries over tomorrow, we have no today in which to be thankful.
One problem with gazing too frequently into the past, is that we may turn around to find the future has run out on us.
You can?t go back, it will never be the same. You can only move forward.
I Forget regret, or life is yours to miss.
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codeblue
I regret not being able to use a music scholarship at the age of 17 (had written about 30 songs at that point) and an academic scholarship at 18 (valedictorian of my graduating class). College was a no-no in 1975.
The last 30 years of my life could have been way been totally different...I think about it from time to time.
Codeblue
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minimus
notperfectyet----I would have suggested it to you when I was an elder if I knew you. Believe me.
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notperfectyet
Mini, I would of suggested it to you, if I could, but I couldn't...so I will now....
emotions are not working...but it would of been a big old fat laughing smiley...one singing ..."their coming to take us away ah ha...."
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BLISSISIGNORANCE
My greatest regret is that as my 2 older kids became teenagers I made their lives (and my own) complicated and stressful. So I missed out on what could have been a fun time with them.
I came into the borg when they were little and things were easy then. Little kids go where their parents go and are fairly easy to please. But as they moved into the teenage years things got difficult. I just wanted to do the right thing and I really believed and trusted the borg and it's direction. As the kids started to notice people of the opposite sex, listened to what the WTS calls questionable music, wearing 'worldly' clothes etc.............I tried to put the brakes on everything. And all it did was create a home full of conflict. In the end the 2 left home. They both returned a year later but my daughter has never been settled and has left again. I now have 2 sons at home and trying to rebuild a relationship with my daughter. They have all done all right despite the borg but a few years were wasted and lost.
My youngest is now 13 and he has the best situation of all. His entire family is out of the borg so he can do heaps of fun things. He plays sports, wears what he wants, listens to music I really don't like but what the hell, he has a girlfriend and they both come out with me, go to the movies and school dances, talk on the phone, she spent new year's eve with us, he goes to friends' houses and sleeps over, etc, etc. That is exactly how I imagined I would have brought up my older 2 but because of the borg it didn't happen.
So now I just do things my way and it's getting alot better with the 2 older ones. I have got to know their friends, they come over and talk with us, I'm much closer to my kids now because I am free to love and like them unconditionally. And I'm being the mother I always wanted to be, I'm being myself not a dub mum. I'm thinking of my kids when I make decisions now, not the WTS. God I was stupid!!!!!!!!!
Anyhow, after regrets there is moving on and I'm heading toward a happier future than my past was.
Cheers, Bliss
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minimus
...poor npy.
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Lonestar13
NOT GOING TO COLLEGE! But I am still young and I am going to go, and to be honest it is better that I go at this point now that I am more mature, and have gained valuable experience in the workplace that can help me in my schooling. Ideally its the other way around, but hey!
Other than that, I hated EXPLAINING why I decided not to attend college. I am sure you've all heard the illustartion given in most public talks which says "why would you want to buy a ticket on a sinking ship" Or why would you go into a store that has a sign that says, "going out of business" and ask for a job application. I'd get the blankest stares ever, followed by the question, "but how are you going to get a job"...
The sad part is that may accepted jobs doing menial tasks becuase the of the stance of the org on "higher education". Then, as jw started stuggling financially, and it was found that working part time in a clothing store could not support one enough to pioneer, it was then decided that "supplemental education" is necessary. However just 2 years ago, a friend was denounced by one elder in her congregation because she deceided to go to college.
Agreed with Blondie- NO REGRETS!
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minimus
Having to explain a certain thing is truly embarrassing. People just can't comprehend why we never celebrated a bithday or why we haven't talked to a "friend" for years.
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plmkrzy
Not preparing more for the future due to thinking there is no future so why bother.