What Regrets Did You Have Because You Were A Witness?

by minimus 47 Replies latest jw friends

  • Hapgood
    Hapgood

    Raising my daughter in this religion.

    I wasted 26 years of my young adult life in this cult.

    I gave up college (I was in my first year of college when I joined)

    Can never wish my Dad happy birthday, give him a Father's day card, or celebrate the holidays with him ( he died 13 years ago)

    Hapgood

  • gypsywildone
    gypsywildone

    That I wasn't the one who burned down the Phoenix kh (waits for minimus to slap me upside the head)

    Oh crap, I can't get the emoticons to work :(

  • copsec
    copsec

    I regret that because I was a witness back in my prime years, I never got to pose for Playboy which is a secret dream of mine

  • Thirdson
    Thirdson

    All the wrong choices I made because of my "conscience". These are some:

    • Not going to a full University (I did part-time college and night courses locally so as not to move out of home)
    • Quitting my first job because of the amount of military contract work I was getting involved with. (I missed out on the changes in engineering such as CNC machine tools and the CAD/CAM revolution because of where my career went).
    • Not buying the house I really wanted because the mortgage would be a stretch and besides the new system would be here soon. (It was a converted barn and its price doubled within a year)
    • Getting maried to a young JW girl who was pressured to find someone "nice." Turns out I was "nice" but not right.
    • Raising my kid as a JW and doing everything I was expected to do including visiting teachers to explain what he could and couldn't do.
    • Not planning for the real future and expecting not to retire.
    • The colossal waste of time spent sitting bored in KH, spent in FS and meeting prep.

    Most of my regrets I have corrected or am correcting. The biggest regrets are where I can't take back the time and reverse my actions relating to family. There will always be some permanent scars.

    Thirdson

  • Hunyadi
    Hunyadi

    That I was not "ENCOURAGED" to get an education because "ARMEGEDDON" was always "just around the corner", we were always living on "the threshold of the new system of things", so there is no point to it, right?

    Well, shit, here I am 36 years later, and I was never supposed to have turned 18 in this system of things.

    I now often "encourage" my kids to get a good education and make the circumstances right for them to attend college. I tell them if they do not get an education, they will have to be broke, ignorant and stupid right up until the end comes in 2034.

    I also regret that I was compelled to bring my x-wife into "The Truth". It brainwashed her, she turned it against me and our children and became a stark raving fanatical lunatic who lies 50x more now than she did when she was "worldly".

    K, let's go get some breakfast!

    H

  • simplesally
    simplesally

    Not marrying the worldly guy who wanted to get married while I was studying. He wanted a 'divided' household and my 'spiritual parents' warned me of the awful future ahead of me.

    Giving up my good full time job to work part time in my field. I gave up soooo much income that now its going to be hard to build up my retirement account.

  • micheal
    micheal

    That I gave up everything and gave everything for a god that didn't give a crap about anyone but himself . Gave all my time and energy for a god ( wts ) who in turn provided me more stress and anxiety than I could ever imagine.

    But Brother, Jehovah loves you. Yeah right, he sure has a strange way of showing it.

  • minimus
    minimus

    WHOOOOOOOOOO!!!!! These are quite poweful expressions. Reading this stuff can get you angry!

  • freedom96
    freedom96

    Two biggest regrets.

    One, losing my childhood without the joys common to kids. Just about anything that kids through teen age years get to enjoy unless you are a witness.

    My second regret is my son living with his mother who is still an active witness, and he is torn within regarding the religion.

  • Sassy
    Sassy

    My biggest regret? is staying a witness when my first husband and I split up and losing my children in the battle because I did..

    Only now after I left am I rebuilding my life with them.

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