Oh that wonnerful land called Texas & it's curiosities ...

by Celtic 34 Replies latest jw friends

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  Billygoat

  Neil and I took chastity vows when we were dating. I think many people don't realize the benefits of it. When you date someone and DON'T sleep with them, you get to know the REAL person. Your relationship is based on a true friendship and not just great sex. Every boyfriend I ever had before Neil, I slept with. (I didn't have a lot of boyfriend's, but the ones I had, I always shared my bed with.) When it came to break up time, it was VERY difficult because not only was there a friendship loss, but I was also losing a lover. Neil experienced the same thing with his exes. We decided to do something "different" with our budding romance and not sleep with each other until our wedding night. So we didn't. Was it hard? Yes...sometimes one of us would change our mind in the heat of the moment, but the other was strong enough for the two of us and nothing would happen. Looking back, are we glad? Yes! We are proud of the fact that we didn't sleep with each other until the wedding night. We know without a doubt that we have a stronger marriage because of it. We both have clean consciences and realize we have a great foundation for our relationship. Not having premarital sex is not just about NOT having sex. It's a lesson in patience, priorities, and the benefit of "appropriate" timing in the important things in life. A lesson that all of us should learn.

  So...all that to say...don't knock the chastity vows. There are a lot of benefits you don't know until you experience it first hand.

  Just my thoughts...

  Andi
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  SheilaM

  BillyGoat: Thunder and I didn't take vows per se we just made a decision not to have sex or even make out before we married. I could have handled the making outbut he would kiss and leave quickly LOL teeh heee Never knew he was leaving to go home to take a cold shower ROFLMAO

  We have had a very active and fufilling sex life for almost 20 years (20 in April) I think it allowed us as you said to love each other for more than sex. It also made it mean a lot to us that our honeymoon was the first time.

  So although people nay say it I find it has worked wonderfully for us
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  Valis

  Good lord look at all the smiling Avatars! Ladies, I would never nay say something that worked for you.. It could work for religious reasons or simply personal ones. Its all good.

  Sincerely,

  District Overbeer.
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  FlyingHighNow

  Did the don't wait thing the first marriage. Did the wait thing the second one. Yes, I was proud of the self control and all that. It has it's merits and it's an admirable thing. This time I haven't waited and I find it's the most beautiful relationship I have ever had. In every way. There are merits in waiting and sometimes there is merit in not waiting. My conscience is as clean this go around as it was the second go around.

  I don't think anyone should think it's a bad thing that some choose to wait. I don't think it's always a bad thing not to wait. It depends on the maturity of the couple and their own particular circumstances as to which way they should go.

  By all means though, they should consider a tour of Texas as part of their honeymoon or first vacation together. Texas rocks.

  Heather
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  Rabbit

  Howdy,

  Yes, most Texans like Texas. Most of the visitors, too. It is such a varied landscape with so many different

  ethnic groups. I would not live anywhere else, but, do like to visit. And even if some, like me, like Calf fries,

  aka, Calf testicles, breaded and fried like chicken when I can find them! The funniest thing is how the

  'typical' Texan lives and especially the horrible exagerated accent that TV shows want to give us.

  We have our share of old racist farts, too. They are not as common as TV wants our culture to be

  portrayed as being. (If we talk funny we must be racist)

  We do tend to be different tho', after all NO other state was it's own country, with a president, an army &

  navy. too

  Come down and see us!

  I would like to meet up with other Texans who used to be JW's, just to talk and see how they survived

  and how they handled things.

  Lee