I edited the post out based on pete's assessment. It's best to be cautious. One can never be sure if she would ever be here in the future posting with me as well. I'd hate to have her think that I aired out all of our dirty laundry here on the board.
franklin,
Yes I do love her. But it?s tough when she seems to not reciprocate it back and is only interested in staying together to avoid being alone. But that may just be the fear of the WTS speaking and acting within her & not being able to any other way of existing.
pettygrudger
Patience is there because I do love her, but at times it wears thin and I feel I have to remind her where I stand so that she doesn?t think that she can just walk all over me with jehover's blessing
yerusalyim,
That is interesting. I?d like to make the elders scared based on all of the meddling they have done in my marriage, but to be honest, I?m sick of fighting those petty folks and I am ready to just move on from them. Thank you for the information.
iiz2cool,
I didn?t realize that. Sorry. Hope you are doing better now.
stillajwexelder,
I?ve read some of your posts RE: your life, and I imagine that you can relate.
SS,
Bad guy as far as in the eyes of the WTS? Or bad guy if things get messy in a divorce?
I don?t mind what the congregation thinks of me as much as what I worry about what they are starting to think of my brother.
If there were implications in divorce court against me based on the above, that would interest me.
sens,
She is hanging with a sister who has been cheated on by her JW husband, then divorced him. We have a couple of those in our KH, so am sure that she is getting info fed into her mind from these ?friends? on how to protect herself from a conniving husband.
shotgun,
Saw that one, can?t wait.
Did you mean ?biter? or bitter??
dr.,
thx bud
Nina,
Funny how easy it is to draw parallels to "The Stepford Wives," isn't it?
Even funnier because she brought up how she feels like a Stepford Wife. We have never watched the film together, so I am guessing that she watched it with someone from the KH. I wanted to say that she was right and is a Stepford Wife to the WTS, but I restrained myself since it wouldn?t do any good saying it to her.
She sounds almost childlike in her wish for the elders to dictate her every move, as if she feels like her following the rules to the letter validates her life and worth.
That is an accurate assessment.
It's highly possible that the elder and his wife are telling her to be a good little wife, to win you over "without a word,"
That?s my guess as well. They are reminding her that she has to be the better Christian than I to win me over. Hence, her saying that she knows that she is not perfect.
Also, they could be encouraging her to wait until you, the evil apostate, leave HER, so she can be the martyr in this situation
She?s alluded to that as well in the past.
Nina, you sure you & Big Tex aren?t from WI and have hung out with us in the past?
Double Edge,
Oh my, that would end up with a drive home ended with a quick jerk of the steering wheel off of a steep cliff.
Thank goodness there are no cliffs around here.
gypsywildone,
Neither one of us deserve it I guess. She keeps saying how unfair all of this is to her. It?s life.
You get a few curve balls once in a while.
How you handle them I suppose decides what kind of person one is.
peacefulpete,
thx for the kind reminder.
Nathan Natas,
Yes, but you don?t want that on the business end of your stick
Little toe,
Her sister, huh?
Maybe Nathan wants to hook up with her
?Ruined my life!?
?
Get it in almost every discussion like this.
Except her line is:
?I didn?t sign up for this.
You should have had all of this figured out before you married me.
You shouldn?t have married me with these doubts.
I?m young and now you have ruined the rest of my life.?
She started into that last night and before she got through the first sentence I finished it for her.
She didn?t know what to say until I asked her, ?that?s it, right??
?Well, ya, that?s how I feel.?
It may have come off cocky, but at least she knows that I understand how she feels.
In a way I wish that she could do the same back to me.
