by Sassy 29 Replies latest jw friends
If you are no longer associating with JWs either from fading or DAing or being Df'd, do you miss your JW Friends? Have you found over time that the void was filled and you no longer needed them? Did you in fact find out your life was happier without them? Or are there times you just sit and think how much you wish that part of your life was still there.. and they were in it??
What do you miss most about those friendships? Anything?
do you miss your JW Friends?
I had JW friends???
I missed a few of them at first. But as I made new friends in the "world" - and discovered they were actually less judgmental, more supportive, and a heck of a lot more fun............
I don't miss any of my old friends.
If I was hit in the head tomorrow, suffered a terrible loss of memory, and returned to the JW's to be reinstated ('cause it would take a terrible loss of memory to do something that stupid )......I can't see that I would find any good friends there any more. I am really drawn to people who are "transparent" - true to themselves and honest - not faky. I like people who are honest with me - whether I want to hear it or not. And I like people who have a mind, are not afraid to share what they think, and don't necessarily always have the same opinion as me.
Yep - I just can't see myself friends with a JW any longer.
There are times when I think about some of them with fondness. I may laugh or smile when I think about some of the good times we shared. But, I was never really that close to any of my JW friends so I do not really miss any of them.
Theres some of them I miss all the time.
JW Friends
is that an oxymoron?
When i started Q'ing the WTS beliefs, not one of my 'friends' from the KH that I grew up in ever contacted me and asked if I was OK
but they did tell my wife that they "missed" me
With friends like that, who needs enemies
At first I missed them but more than that I felt I was hurting them-like they would feel I abandoned them. But, I found other friends and that passed after a while. If any of them would want to reconnect with me now-I would welcome it (assuming they were out of the troof as well!)
Nikita
Having been raised in the JW "truth" , I did not know any better.
However, when I broke away in my early 20s, the new wordly friends I made ( who proved themselves to be REAL friends) told me when they learned of how my old JW friends "shunned" me for leaving ( and I NEVER forgot this) " We like you and want to be your friend no matter what religion you are" . And they proved their friendship by giving me support and encouragement like no other JW friend ( pioneer or not) that I ever had.
Those simple words have stayed with me for over 20 years, and still have so much power to me.
I do not miss any of the people I knew as a JW. My father ( who was an Elder, and had been a member of the Huntington,NY congregation for 30 years) passed on last March Although he had "faded away" along with my mother not one of their old friends came to his service or even called my mother to offer support. Not one.
No, I do not miss them or their "fascist" way of life.
People whom we form an emotional attachment with and share good times with will most likely always retain a warm spot in our hearts. This is true whether they are JWs or not.
I miss a few of my friends... if only they would accept me as I accept them, things would be dandy.
Alias,
I love your avatar! Very cool!
I still have a few... but they drink, get drunk and smoke. I even had a spliff last time I was visiting... those guys are my dearest friends that are still attached to "the lie". Other than that, I know a few but rarely see them.
All the others, I never ever see them or hear from them. Not suprisingly.
