hi im new (help)

by blink sk8 29 Replies latest jw friends

  • seeitallclearlynow
    seeitallclearlynow

    Hi blink! And a very big welcome to you!

    Your dad sounds so much like my ex-husband. Very controlling and unable to fathom how anyone could have any questions or doubts about the Watchtower's teachings. Literally unable to grasp why others might see things differently. Pathetic. But, he was raised in an authoritarian household himself, not allowed to question things, and then the cult control of the Watchtower on top of that background, well....

    What I've read is that "control freaks" are full of fear, motivated by fear. The conflict here is that JW's believe the Bible is truly God's Word, and the Bible teaches at John 4:18 that "there is no fear in love, but perfect love throws fear outside, because fear exercises a restraint."

    People like your dad and my ex-husband (father of my children) feel that they must control others for their own good. They have no confidence in other people or any real faith in God to take care of matters. My son had a very hard time with his dad at your age, and under very similar circumstances. While I had a great relationship with my son, he practically hated his father. His father could not imagine that there was ANYTHING about himself that could possibly cause anyone not to like or trust him, so he too believed that I tried to poison the kids' minds, tried to turn them against him. But I never did any such thing! I knew that kind of thing is cruel to the children and is harmful to them and does no good.

    People like that cannot believe that young people can see things for themselves, and will ultimately work things out for themselves. But they do, and you will too.

    You might enjoy reading all the characteristics of cults that the WT Society matches up with, at Cults 101.

    All the best to you!

  • DevonMcBride
    DevonMcBride

    Hi and welcome to the board Blink

    Devon

  • calamityjane
    calamityjane

    Welcome blink

    cj

  • Double Edge
    Double Edge

    Hi Blink...and WELCOME!

  • Special K
    Special K

    Hi Blink..

    I have a 14year old.....

    You just might have to keep going to meetings for awhile.

    some Teenagers mentioned that once they got a part time job then they could miss some meetings without too much trouble.

    Keep reading different posts and information here and that will be good research for you..

    OH.... AND.. Never get baptized. Once your baptized, then when you do leave they will disfellowship you and then your Dad might never talk to you.

    Not getting baptized is the #1 thing on the "Not to Do List".. that I would suggest.

    Welcome to the forum, by the way.

    sincerely

    Special K

  • Nan
    Nan

    Hi Blink,

    Sounds like you're a wise young man and have a good head on your shoulders. Even though I've never been a JW, I can imagine how frustrating it would be for someone in your position. The people on this board will really help and support you.

    Nan

  • Sirius Dogma
    Sirius Dogma

    Welcome to the board Blink!

  • Dawn
    Dawn
    telling me that Jehovah doesn?t approve of questioning faith.

    Blink - this is a lie, told to keep control of you. Read up on the Bureans in the new testament - they did not accept what the apostle Paul was teaching them without first researching it for themselves. And Paul commended them for doing so.

    Never accept anything as FACT if you can not verify the basis on which it stands. Truth lives in the light - question, research, shine a light on it - there is where you will find real truth.

  • Winston Smith :>D
    Winston Smith :>D

    If you can read this then you are too close to the screen :-D

  • blink sk8
    blink sk8

    lol... dont worry i dont think ill be getting babtized soon... thats the LAST thing on my to do list

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