My wonderful Valentine's Day............. (page 3)

LyinEyes

((((((((((Tat)))))))))), I hope today finds you well as can be expected. I can understand that you may have trouble leaving right now, kids in tow and all. Hopefully very soon you will be on your own two feet, you got the ball in motion girl!!! Stay calm , cool and collected as possible and be very careful. I would stay out of his way, if you are going to stay in the same house for right now,,,,,It might be hard , but I know a lady that faked being the good wife, doing all her duties, not fighting over anything, with her hubby , because she made up her mind she was going to leave.

Now I know this situation doesnt apply to all women in this kind of situation, but in this case it worked out , the easiest way for this lady. Everyone's case is different , with different solutions, and circumstances that could change in an instant.

Anyway, she was kind of in the postion you are in, there was no where to go, but a homeless shelter and she didnt want to do that. She thought if she was not in any physical danger , abuse,,,,,,,then she could fake it all, until she got her money saved, and an apartment rented. She started , little by little putting her personal things , mainly sentimental things , in small boxes and storing them at a friends house, that way he didnt notice they were gone. She had to leave alot behind, but she got the important things, most of the things left could be replaced.

Once you are out of the house I am sure you can have the Law, escourt you to YOUR home, you have had residence there for a time, however long, and they will allow you to get what is yours.

(((((((((( April)))))))))))))) hang in there,,,,,,,,and be safe, if you have to run,,,,,,,,,grab the kids and run.

a wee scots lass

Hi Tatiana,

I am new to this forum but was really moved by your story.

Here is a wee tip from Bonnie Scotland!

If you have any claims to the house no matter how trivial or small the claim is - here is what you should do -

Get him pissed (drunk) and get his bank cards
Go empty his account - he will never remember that it wasnt him that did it!
Call a locksmith to come and change the locks
Bag up all his clothing
call the police and get a restaining order put in place
hand over his clothing to the nearest homeless hostle 'cause thats where he will be sleeping !
Go and have a great life!!!!!

By the time he getts all that legal stuff sorted you can be long gone - livin the good life.

Oh and who said you were alone from what I can see there are lots of people out there who care -

The world is waiting for you!

from a wee scots lass

Maverick

I think the wee scot is not too familiar with the armed and drunken bruts in America.

If you really want to fix this guy, hook him up with Xena! That should take care of him for a long, long, time! Maverick

Xena

I already offered to help Tat with her "Earl" situation Mav...still waiting to hear back on that.

Xena of the "Dixie Chick" class

PS...don't be bitter not every man is up for the challange of a strong independent woman

shotgun

(((((((((((tatiana)))))))))))))))

So sorry for your pain...he certainly sounds like he doesn't deserve you. Make an exit plan and get all your ducks in a row....most of all stay safe.

BTW..I see Paul sent you a Pm...just delete it. He sends them to me all the time and frankly I'm tired of him sending me close-ups of his boobs, even if he does have a pet name for each one.Don't get me wrong I like 38C's as much as the next guy...It's the extra nipple which turns me off.

Winston Smith :>D

He sends them to me all the time and frankly I'm tired of him sending me close-ups of his boobs, even if he does have a pet name for each one.Don't get me wrong I like 38C's as much as the next guy...It's the extra nipple which turns me off.
shotgun

Well, that's fine, I can take a hint.

But you can keep sending me those titillating pics of that honey you are claiming is your woman.

BTW, have I ever told you she is a 'dead-ringer' for Chloe Jones

shotgun

I notice Winston that you leave large gaps in between posted thoughts while still in the same post..

How many bounces do they make in that empty head before they make it out....hmmm

Tatiana

"Why did you pick him?" Surely you can do better, are worth more than he realizes, and would be better off without this little boy in a mans body. I am not trying to make this sound like it is all your fault. But half of it is. The half where you let this loser stay in your life. Someone has to be the adult here and it ain't gonna be him! Time to find a man worhty of you. Walk outside and stand up tall and yell out...."NEXT!"

maverick....I was fooled. He put on a wonderful show for me. I broke up with him before. And he went to rehab. His mother called me and told me he was through with alcohol. I gave him a second chance. Which we all deserve. The problem is, I lost my job. And we signed a lease together. So, I have a crappy job now, and no friends. I don't have enough money to leave. He knows this. I hate him with all my heart and soul. One of my peeves is lying. I never lie. And if I don't do something, then I expect the same. He lied. I'm gone.

I am making plans as I type. Another apartment. I got hired at the post office. I took my drug test and got fingerprinted yesterday. I got a used car today. He can never take "his" car and threaten me again. If I didn't have two boys depending on me, I'd have been gone. I don't care where "I" live. But they are in school. And if I leave now, my boys will be homeless.

Each time he touches me, I feel ill. All I think about are my boys. Just close your eyes, April, and think of them. It won't be long now. Just close your eyes. Go somewhere else.....

Tatiana

Some are able to make themselves look extremely attractive in the beginning, but get lazy at keeping it up when the relationship progresses. That's when their true colors show. I'm guessing that Tatiana didn't know what she got in the beginning. It's the whole wolf in sheep's clothing.

nos, you are so right. I believed the show he put on. Now, I trust and believe no one. I am hating my self for being so foolish and blind. How could I be so stupid? And has this made me lose all feeling for anyone ever again? I hate him even more for that.

kat2u

I am soo sorry.I think the plans you are making to leave as soon as possible are good. And you will be as prepared as possible.Hang in there!

With loving support,

Kat

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