Guys, Do you need to be on top? (page 2)

Nosferatu

Sorry, just passing through...

Better than passing wind.

Personally I believe that people should be "whole" in and of themselves.
When two such "centered" people are together, regardless of relative incomes, it should work.
It'd be nice to think that both had fullfilling work and had the self-confidence to appreciate each other.

Sadly the reality is often that people have hangups, insecurities, and jealousies, especially when their own world isn't what they'd like it to be.

heathen

I'll take it anyway I can get it . I thought about the mail order bride thing but that just seems too risky , I still think there are some american women I can get along with out there but not having much success with that . The notion of marriage is not something I am planning for my future but finding a good relationship is something important . I don't want to die old and lonely .

Sassy

And ladies, can you be with a guy who is less successful than you? I am a skilled tradesman, not a professional. True, I was an Art Director of a company for two years and am better educated than most tradesmen, but I get real dirty each day and work with my hands. Would you be ashamed of me?

It is not important to me that a guy make more money than I do, nor that he have a profession of one to brag about. I remember at my old job a friend of mine's husband worked in a gas station. The snobs in her dept were making fun of him behind her back and asking why would she settle for that? (which totally ticked me off). They are very happy. I think they have been married for ten yrs now. His job wasn't important, he was. What he was inside.

Where I would have a problem is when a man doesn't care about work because he knows that the woman can provide. I don't think that is under any circumstances healthy. I have been in a situation where I felt used and it didn't make for a happy situation. I won't go there again. However, to me, if a man does what he can, just as I expect I should do the same, whatever they both put into the relationship is what makes it work.

ps.. sorry Maverick if I helped in any way for your other thread to get off topic..

Maverick

Thanks y-all for the replies. I write this stuff and go off to make someones house beautiful then look forward to coming home to see who said what.

Please keep in mind I'm a big tease. I have learned to laugh at myself and at situations I have put myself in. God must have one hell of a sense of humor ... look at the suff we do to yourselves!

Nos , thanks again, you are a wise fellow! I agree about not taking advantage, that would be very poor form. I am better than that. It is hard though to take expensive gifts from ladies. What if I want to end the relationship? I'll feel like a heel for taking things from this person. I don't like being beholding to someone, unless it is for a kind act.

I was not trying to start a flame war with any of the ladies about their outlook of taking care of their men. Some womens idea of taking care of their men involves baking, while others involves guns and blood and stuff!

I still feel some of you ladies where giving us the idealized, "correct" answer. Some women need the image, the pretty boy, the walker. Some are past that crap. I like having a nice looking woman on my arm. I'm short and not great looking, so it feeds my ego. I seem to attract nice looking ladies in spite of my "shortcomings". So fess up fellow posters and tell it like it really is! Maverick

Carmel

Two of my sons married ladies from third world countries, India and Pakistan. Neither is submissive or in the least subservient. Both have multiple college degrees, speak five languages and are capable of earning more than their husbands. Both guys are totally happy with their circumstances although their life styles are quite different than mine.

carm

SheilaM

Thunder works with his hands I detest suits espcially suits with degrees that are idiots.

LDH

Mav says:

I'm a big tease

NO!!!!! Say it ain't so.

My only rule for that crap was that the man had to earn at least 30% more than I do. Why, you ask? Because in this male dominated society women still only make 70 cents on the male dollar. I am NOT trying to take care of some bum, who apparently even if he had a job equal to mine in scope and description would be making 30% more than me.

Add to that the fact that I was a single parent (working full-time making good money)--and I was REALLY not trying to take from my child's mouth and put in some man's.

In short, HELL YES I expect my man to earn PLENTY more than I do, and I make damn good money. And I'm happy there, too. LOL

Lisa

Not born yesterday Class

Bryan

My wife and I work as a team for our family. We don't worry about who makes what (week to week she makes more, but I can make a lot more in small sprints).

There are many jobs to do, we do what we have to make sure the house and fam work like a well oiled machine.

Be happy in you heart and life, the money will follow.

Bryan

LittleToe

wb Lisa - you've been missed

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