by Nosferatu 35 Replies latest social relationships
To add to the mix ...
Internet/phone contact leaves out "chemistry". You know, pheromones (sp), the actual physical 'click' that happens.
I can't see *myself* being interested (romantically) via Internet - all that time invested, hopes, whatever, then you meet - no chemistry. Hard enough to find in RL, imho.
talesin
well for all the women that are lonely wishing they had someone to go out with because they were against using the net and wasn't having luck meeting in person on their own.. I have met some wonderful men who were enjoyable to be with, not only when we were talking first on the emails and phone, but also when we began dating in real life.. According to the latests stats, most professionals are just too busy to date in the 'old fashioned' means and are turning to the personals and internet to find people with like interests... so if one turns this method down, they might be passing up opportunities to meet some really great people..
Sassy,
Yes, this is true. There are lots of good folk meeting on the net. I've made several *friends* through this board.
I have a hard time drumming up interest in dating in RL as well, so my Internet attitude is no big surprise. Chemistry, for me, doesn't come around too often. Spent a lot of time single.
Just thought it was a valid point ..
tal
Maybe you missed that I'm marrying a woman I met on an Internet service? :)
PS
Don't get me wrong (see last post), it's not them, it's me ... *lol*
BTW, very happy for you. You seem to be a v. kind person who reasons things out - I've never *read* you slagging anyone or being abusive, nasty, etc. although you can make a point and don't hesitate to speak your mind.
CONGRATS!
take care,
t
Maybe you missed that I'm marrying a woman I met on an Internet service? :)
not sure if you were saying that to me? because I wasn't commenting toward you Phantom..
I was talking in general towards the negative attitude toward internet dating in the thread as a whole..
I just see so much negativity about it.. sometimes it irritates me.. especially when there are people that might whine because they don't have anyone.. can't find anyone.. I think they are missing an opporitunity if they just dismiss meeting people on the net..
and I know it isn't for anyone.. but I don't think people should knock this method for those who choose to use it..
after all.. we are all meeting friends here aren't we?
What I think we really need is a XJW singles site.. sure we have the JW sites.. and we have regular personal sites.. but it would be nice to have a site where if you wanted to meet people who can 'understand' where we come from.. our baggage as a xJW.. to meet up..
I am very much against Internet dating... but I am very much for Internet personals.
As a way to meet people, it's great! As a way to get to know people, it sucks!
Correspondence carries the flaw I mentioned earlier... a fatal flaw, imho. But as the saying says, do what you can, not what you should :)
how soon did you and your fiance meet up in real life after meeting via the net Phantom?
Exchanged two or three e-mails, I gave her my phone number, on the first phone call we arranged our first meeting over drinks.
And that's the formula that I recommend to everybody :)
well all I can say is when I met my Blacknight, I was also dating from the internet a couple local guys. Both those guys locally I did meet them with very close to Phantoms recipe.. because they were here.. easy to hook up with fast... But my knight.. well he wasn't here.. he was a coast away.. and although I found him attractive and interesting, if he hadn't kept calling me, kept catching me in chat.. he might not have kept my attention because it was easier to date the guys who were 'here".. But he did call.. (a couple times when I had brought my date home... fortunately the answering machine was in the other room).. and I fell in love with that man on the phone. We talked for hours a day. Finally we had to meet and like I said, we did so after meeting on the net first 3 months earlier.. He flew me to see him. I knew after all the time we had taken to get to know each other by then on the phone and chat (and some awesome emails too) and finally the meet in real life was the clincher.. that I couldn't see those other men again. He was exactly who I had met online.. exactly who he was on the phone.. Maybe 3 months is still a small amount of time.. I don't know..
