I joined groups as well. Museums, symphany, live theatre. I would go to the mixers and funtions as well, that's where you can really meet people.
Bryan
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I joined groups as well. Museums, symphany, live theatre. I would go to the mixers and funtions as well, that's where you can really meet people.
Bryan
since leaveing the dubbers, I have not made many friends. the problem imo, comes in that the dubs have a social life that is ubalanced, you go to 5 meetings a week study a couple hours on your own. and after work there is not much time after fitting in another 3 to 5 hours a week of door knocking. now you leave and you try to fill the void with something forgin, "a normal social life"
After leaving the dubdom, I became an agnostic, and am happy with my not knowing. would I like to know how we all got here, you bet. do I think we can figure it out. not a chance. but for those who want a faith "fait the beliefe in something with no evedince" than why not go to another faith based group that does not try to control their people? you can meet new friends, and have new groups to do things with. and some one to tell the wows of being dubbers.
I can not do this as I wont live a lie to myself. if I dont believe in somthing I cant pretend. "unless there is money involved" lol
plus I have a large family here and that is only half the problem. they shun me eventhough I am not df'ed but I would not want to be with them any way. and did not when I was going. but I do have my home and rentals on the market and if all goes well we will move to arkansas, nicer wheather than north michigan. and taxes are lower. and I can speak my mind when a dubber comes to the door. I will not tell them I am a baptized former member of the cult, but will ask some fun questions about 607 ect.
the thing is when you leave the dubbers you have a large hole in your life, because they took up almost all of your free life after work. no you need to start to reconstruct the missing part you have now torn out. it will be easier for some than others, the more outgoing a person is the easier it will be for them to start a new life.