I wonder if there is a major reading comprehension problem with people today! They take a portion of what you say, get upset and ignore the rest! Are women that sensitive? Can't they admit that often they don't know what they feel until they talk it out? Have any of you ever listened to women talk to each other. They will roll a situation around and around until they figure out how they really feel about it. And this is not wrong! It is how they process things! Get past the JW mindset that says you are inferior! And I am not kidding here y-all are starting to annoy the Hell out of me! Maverick
Guys, Here's a tip for meeting the ladies!
by Maverick 26 Replies latest social relationships
-
-
talesin
Mav
I'm thinking something more hip, like "Metrosexual Male" (appeals to the Sex&theCity type) or "Renaissance Man" (for the "I'm already perfect" crowd), although I do like 'clodsmo'. It has a certain 'ring' to it (heheh).
Article titles taken from yr threads "Here's a tip for meeting the ladies!" is a GREAT ONE. Or how about "Learn how to be a cunning linguist"?
Also, grooming tips, "What? You haven't had a trim in 2 months!!??" or "Get rid of that suit, guys, the ladies like a relaxed man"
Hey, I think we're onto something!
t
EDIT:
We musta crossed posts, I did not know you were so upset Mav, I'm 'just foolin around'
I thought these threads were all meant tongue- in -cheek, as you mentioned on an earlier thread of yours. Chill, man. Cheeses, if I knew you were gonna throw a hissy fit, I would not joke around with you.
*my posts are up, so I had to edit instead of replying*
-
xenawarrior
I wonder if there is a major reading comprehension problem with people today! They take a portion of what you say, get upset and ignore the rest! Are women that sensitive? Can't they admit that often they don't know what they feel until they talk it out? Have any of you ever listened to women talk to each other. They will roll a situation around and around until they figure out how they really feel about it. And this is not wrong! It is how they process things! Get past the JW mindset that says you are inferior! And I am not kidding here y-all are starting to annoy the Hell out of me! Maverick
Chill Maverick !! It seems that you are the one getting upset. Are men that sensitive? I can only speak for myself so I will. I'm not "upset" about what you are saying- quite the contrary-I'm finding it amusing.
Can't they admit that often they don't know what they feel until they talk it out?
I don't think anyone has said anything about how they "feel" here. People in general may often not know what they feel until they talk it out-men and women alike. And since men aren't taught to pay much attention to how they "feel" in the first place it might even be harder for them to access what they "feel" when they do talk about it. The point is- you haven't been talking about how we women "feel" you have been stating that we don't know what we "want"- quite a different thing. You have some great ideas here but what I'm reading is that you are telling men to do a lot of things they wouldn't normally do, thus changing them- all in an effort to meet women ! It's a game and any woman worth it won't have much of an appreciation for a game.
work on losing the gut, buy some nice, but not too youthful looking, clothes. Buy an iron...wrinkles are a sin! Have your teeth fixed if they need it. And buy several pairs of nice shoes! Women spend a lot of time picking out shoes and notice your footware. Groom yourself, shave or trim the beard, nice hair, nails and be clean.
IMO- if you have to tell a guy to do these things - they aren't doing it for themselves - they are doing it to get a girl ! I'd much rather meet a man who did those things because it makes him feel better about himself whether he's got a woman in his life or not. That means it's part of who he already is. Also IMO- I'd rather be with someone who has their own interests and hobbies and pursues them -FOR HIM instead of signing up for some courses he may have no interest in -in an effort to meet women. If these things are being done for that reason only- to meet women- it's all short lived and if it's not genuine- it's most likely not sustainable either. Evenutally the "other guy" who was under there to begin with will eventually resurface and there will be all sorts of disappointment. For the woman- the person they were attracted to is gone and this other guy is there and she wouldn't have been attracted to him so she ends it. The guy suffers disappointment because this was supposed to work and now she's gone !! It's human nature that we all put on our best face for a certain amount of time in a relationship anyway and those masks come off as time goes on and we see more of a representation of who they really are. For most people; men and women alike, when that starts happening it's not such a big deal- they are still pretty much as they were with a few extra habits or quirks. But if you tell someone to do all of these extra things they wouldn't normally do there is a big difference. My 263 cents. P.S. If you post it they will come............. XW
-
WhyNow2000
LOTS O' BAGGAGE: tall , curvy woman with past. Blonde/blue [eyes], 31, shy, obsessive, Catholic, poor, ind, funny, clever, non-driver, meat-eater, animal-lover, sports-hater, writer. Seeks kindhearted, nin-judgemental, decent, honest, perhaps even naive man 23-45 for short term relationship (under 6 months) ??? B.
curvy woman - FAT
With past - Screwed up Life
obsessive - Needy possible stalker
Animal-lover - Many cats
Kindhearted - Sucker
Non-judgemental - Wimp
-
Mac
Hehehe.....
See... I was right about rule #5!
mac
-
Maverick
All good point folks! As for the taking a class or losing the gut "just to meet women" I believe once the guy gets off his butt and actually does these things he will like how they feel and as a result will adopt that new way of looking at himself. He will slowly stop having an ulterior motive and become that which he was imitating. Have you ever watched the movie Groundhog Day? At first he was a fake but when he became a better person he attracted the girl he could not win over with tricks. The key is to motivate the guy to pick himself up. He may at first not see the value in these things for himself. Once he tastes the result of the changes he will WANT to be this person.
Bottomline guys, you have to become the kind of person that will attract ladies to you. And in the words of Julia Roberts, "You have to fake it until you make it!" Give yourself a year. Learn to be comfortable with yourself and the ladies will be comfortable with you. How can you lose? Maverick
-
talesin
Mav
Great roundup! Build confidence with some role-playing whilst learning about who your true dating self is. As confidence grows, so will you - into the man you are destined to be. Then, as this shiny new more confident person, you're more prepared to be a quality partner.
once the guy gets off his butt and actually does these things he will like how they feel and as a result will adopt that new way of looking at himself.
Learn to be comfortable with yourself and the ladies will be comfortable with you. How can you lose?
Works for me.
Now, how bout that magazine???? Think of the money. NO ! STRIKE THAT ! Think of all the poor guys out there you could help!!! I'd be happy to write a column where the guys could ask questions to a woman. We could title it "The Bee-Yatch Perspective" This could be a fun project. hmmmmmmm
t