Lately there has been threads on family members passing and each time i read them it bring up my grandson Devon. I think of him often but these sad threads of family dieing makes me wonder what he would look like ,what his interest would be. He would have been 7 the first of march but it was not to be.
When my daughter was 8 months pregnant a routine ultrasound was done ,on the ultrasound a small mass was found on his kidney, after consulting a specialist he felt the mass was non threatning but they would watch it for any changes and the baby should be born at Children's hospital so he could be tested and watched. Two weeks had passed and my daughter was visiting friends 3hrs from home when her water broke.She went to the hospital and deliveried what looked like a healthy boy, but within a few hrs they could tell something was very wrong. I don't know the circumstances ,i was not there but immediatly took him to surgery and found this mass had grown so large that it cut off all blood to his internal organs which were now dead. As i waked into the neonatal intensive ward i could this little baby hooked up to so many tubes ,you wouldn't know there was a baby.
Tha doc would come by and smile as we knew Devons time was runnig out and it did within 5hrs of me getting to the hospital the tubes were taken off and he closed his eyes and opened them for the last time. After the grieving the nurse came in to ask us how we wanted to care for his body, i told them we wanted him to close to our home and that i would contact a funeral home near us ,and i did. That was the easier part, they asked me how i wanted to take him home? i said a hearse, well after contacting funeral homes the cost was a thousand dollars, money i didn;t have.
The hospital administrater came to me and said the other ulternative is for you to drive him home in you're car . So that is what i did .I drove 3hrs with my grandson in my car to get to the funeral home so we could bury him in our home town My daughter was a mess but we mad funeral plans and decided to have a closed casket to save others from see this little one dead. Well i have draged this on long enough so anyway , this is the grandson i never knew.
The grandson i never got to know
by kls 26 Replies latest social family
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kls
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simplesally
((((((((kls))))))))
I am so sorry and you were so brave to bring your grandson home in the car. I know I could not have done it. This is a heartbreaking story to hear, I am sorry for your daughter and for you.
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Odrade
I'm so sorry, KLS.
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Scully
((((((((((( kls )))))))))))
The love you have for this dear little boy shines so clearly in your post. I'm sure your daughter will always be grateful to you for personally making sure that he was brought to the funeral home, so he could be close to your family's home.
Hugs, Scully
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nilfun
I know a woman who still cries when she sees someone who looks to be the same age that her child would have been.
This is something that is never forgotten.
I'm so sorry your family only had Devon for a short while. ((Kls))
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kat2u
I am so dorry to hear of your loss.That car trip must have been very difficult for you.
I Too lost a grandson a little over 4 years ago.he was three days old when he died.
It was the most painful thing i have even been thru.Especially seeing my daughter in such pain.
My thoughts are with you
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Sassy
ahhh.. KLS, I'm sorry. How sad for all of you.
I might have a grandchild that would, if alive, have been born about that same time. My son (who was pretty much estranged from me at the time - his choice not mine) informed me he was going to be a father and then later I was told the family cut off all association between them (they were both 17). Later yet I was told it wasn't even true but a scare tactic to shock me. In my heart I think I kind of know it was for real and the later contact was a cover up to the person who inquired. Sometimes I wonder if the child was born, (or aborted), and if so, what he or she must look like. My experience is of course not painful as yours... it just reminded me of a grandchild I sort of had forgotten about.
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aunthill
I'm sorry doesn't sound like enough to say. My heart goes out to you. You were very brave (not the right word) to drive your grandson home, and I admire your strength in doing that.
Aunthill
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Winston Smith :>D
Wow KLS, to do that must have took an amazing amount of strength!
If sorry your family had to go through this...
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seeitallclearlynow
Oh! Kls - my heart goes out to you. How very sad and so difficult to have to do. Few of us will ever have to do this. Your love made you strong. I hope you will not suffer too much with this memory.
Love and peace to you dear.