Roybatty,
You're doing the right thing by helping them. You're showing them that you can be a good person without being a dub, maybe even a much better person.
Am I being walked all over?
by roybatty 26 Replies latest jw friends
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roybatty
Hey roy! How many time must I remind you we do not tollerate replicants on this forum? *LOL*
Hey Val, with this JW family thing, I'm again starting to feel like a replicant instead of a human! Ug! BUT everything else is great! Thanks for asking.
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outnfree
I think you are being true to your OWN standard of conduct (which is much more loving than the WT standard!). This is about all we can do in life if we want to be truly happy and at peace with ourselves.I think that if you continue treating your family the way that is comfortable for you, irregardless of whether or not they are properly appreciative, you will be content. As long as you are not taking a financial hit and can emotionally handle the reality of your relationships, your present course is probably best for you.
out
P.S. Warm hugs to FreePeace and Hyghlandyr -- long time no see!
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talesin
roy, as you said
I said "ok" and now he's working here (very awkward).
are you really 'comfortable' with this?
talesin
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zen nudist
when someone else is ill, there is no reason for you to act ill towards them.... JWs are infected by a Meme or mental virus which clouds their judgements and makes them sometimes do really silly and harmful things...but when they are cured, they will thank you for being their during their time of need.
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Poztate
I laid down a very simple rule: If you shun me, don't expect anything from me.
Gee...This is my thought or to express it biblically "Do unto others as they have already done unto you" (Also known as f**k um)
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L_A_Big_Dawg
Roy,
The main thing about J-Dubs is that the religion teaches conditional love. Their love for you is based on your standing as a J-Dub. One thing that I have learned from Christianity is unconditional love. It should be shown and just not talked about (my biggest gripe with most Evangelical Christians).
Show your family unconditional love, and the difference from their beliefs and yours.
My prayers are with you friend.
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Teela
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donkey
Roy,
I think you are doing the right thing. If you want to catch flies you use honey...vinegar never works.
Perhaps it will work, perhaps it won't but you have much less chance of winning them back by not being there and showing them you love them.
That's my 0.02...but then I always seem to have different views than others on most subjects.
Jack
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onintwo
I agree. Follow your instincts. Ask for a "return" favor, without phrasing it like that of course, and guage their response. That will then help shape your own feelings and distill the whole thing.
Onintwo