Thanks everyone for the feedback, it's appreciated. It really is weird being around them, they truly believe that there is nothing wrong with their conduct. For example, last weekend I was at my mom's moving some furniture for her and fixing her front door. My brother shows up with his wife and kids (to visit their grandmother). So they head for the livingroom while I'm there fixing the front door. I then hear my sister-in-law laughing and my mom asks her "What are you laughing about?" So my sister in law answers "Juliana (my 4-year old niece) asked "'who is that man working on Oma's (grandma's) door'"? Then they all started laughing. I was within earshot and almost blew a gasket. WTF? That's the way you want your kid raised, not knowing their own uncle? I shot my mom a look and she got the messaged. I'm not sure how long I can put up with this. Without sounding like a complete jerk, they'd better show some class and appreciation before this situation turns ugly.
Am I being walked all over?
by roybatty 26 Replies latest jw friends
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Xena
It's amazing how obtuse they are huh Roy?
Good to know your kids are going to be raised differently and by a father that sets such a good example for them.
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Carmel
I once read somewhere where some dude said to "turn the other cheek". Some interpret that to moon them that moon you, but me thinks thats not the cheek this dude had in mind. Kill em with kindness, but don't allow them to take advantage. If lil bro doesn't pull his weight, fire his fanny just like you would anyone else. Tell mom its all part of your following the "dudez" directions to be kind to your enemies.....
carmel the "candy man"
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anglise
Yes you are being walked all over.
The real question is DO YOU MIND.
If in doubt do the loving thing and you will never feel bad about your self whatever they do to you.
Maybe you could try for a little more involvement such as a meal together to see just how the land lies, it could give more of a clue to their real feelings about you.
Whatever you choose do the thing that you can live happily with.
Anglise
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roybatty
Good to know your kids are going to be raised differently and by a father that sets such a good example for them.
Thanks X, I needed that! :)
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roybatty
Maybe you could try for a little more involvement such as a meal together to see just how the land lies, it could give more of a clue to their real feelings about you.
Actually, tomorrow will be interesting. Every other Friday I buy lunch for all the guys (all seven of us. lol). Every sits in my office and we chomp on pizza or whatever and, for 30 or so minutes, we talk about anything BUT work. He's expected to join in because it makes for good moral. Plus, from time to time the guys get on each others nerves and this forces them to talk with the guy they're "pissed" off with. Anyway, if he pulls the "I can't eat with you" attitude, he'll have to take a hike. I just can't have that at my company. I wonder what he'll do...
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Valis
well Roy...they are your rules afterall...Don't be pushed around. This aint no stinking elder/ms janitorial service...it is your livelyhood. Not his witness. Be firm and if he doesn't get it then he needs to be on his way. Even that might make him think about the way he acts in regards your attempt at kindness in his interest. Cheers you replicant bastard...best from the Texas Branch.
Sincerely,
District Overbeer