by Nancy 35 Replies latest jw experiences
Hi Nancy,
Welcome to the forum.
Limit your exposure to this woman; have your husband present when you or your children have to "deal" with her.
Sounds like she is suffering from something other than just "religious fervor". Some people are just nasty--JW or not.
I hope she has her own apt. in your house; to allow you and your kids and husband your privacy.
I know how it is; my mother in law lives on my property also.
Sometimes, avoidance is preferred.
regards, and be well, Frank
I'm so sorry your mother-in-law is making you miserable. She is a very emotionally disturbed woman. Don't try to figure her out. Live your life with your husband and family, and don't allow her to manipulate how you feel.
Best Wishes. I had one of those too, only she wasn't a JW.
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Hi Nancy,
Sorry to hear you are getting such a hard time. How did she come to live with you in the first place?
You do not say what part of the world you are from but instinct tells me that she perhaps comes from a culture pre JW where the daughter in law is expected to have the mother in law live with them and the daughter in law is expected to care for her in her old age.
If this is the case then she will see no good in what you do, couple that with the JW dilemma and she will feel that you have stolen her son and that you are the reason that she will not have ?good standing? in the class system operated by JW?s. Oh yes, the class system is alive and well within the kingdom halls! Points for the class system includes elders in the family, pioneers, special pioneers, and how many kids raised and stayed a JW, etc etc!
I know because I had first hand experience of who I was allowed to associate with even within the same congregation. My parents did not want me mixing with fellow JW?s who did not come from very spiritual families!
All I can say is try to get out of there as soon as you can.
Good luck,
Scots lass
To say your husband is a 'momma's boy' would be reckless, insensitive, and conducive to the exact thinking the WTBTS is known for: black and white thinking.
Not necessarily babboon brain!...Its called a different perspective. One that happens to be mine for these reasons. Yes, a man will take care of his mother, but much like animals that eat thier own, the child does well to get away when necessary. If in fact this man hasn't a clue about the emotional toll his mother is causing on his wife, he is either oblivious to her and her needs, doesn't care, doesn't have the nerve to deal with his mother, or in fact he is a momma's boy. It isn't black and white when there are several ways of looking at an issue. Besides the standard WTBTS response would be for the man to step up and show some headship and not get run over by his mother...unless of course they have changed the whole concept of who is in charge of a household. Well this apparently hasn't happened either, so there may be yet another reason, but like I said...I offered another perspective and I'm sorry it doesn't suit you or that you find it harsh....but no one promised a rose garden you know..
Sincerely,
District Overbeer
Hi Nancy..... I gotta say, I dont think it's the religion that is the excuse for her behavior. Sounds to me like she's just crazy.
Tie her up and drop her off at the KH.
