How were you disfellowshiped????

by tcpmp 23 Replies latest jw experiences

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  Lady Lee

  Hmmm let's see - where do I start

  I was married for 15 years to a wife and child abuser who became an elder. When we finally separated he insisted on coming over for sex because it was my "duty" to supply the marital due. When I realized the only way to be rid of him was to do the nasty and commit adultery to give him grounds for divorce I did what had to be done. - one time.

  When I told him the elders were called in (all his buddies) and they listened to him tell them about how he abused me and the kids and kept it a secret for 15 years. They ignored that.

  And for my one time experience I was DFed.

  A high price to pay for my freedom but well worth it in the end.

  Oh and the elders covered up the real reason for the divorce and him stepping down as an elder. He got to walk away from the marriage looking like the poor brother. He married a new sister in the congregation and "God replace what he lost" when I left. How nice. The new wife lasted 10 years before she did the same thing I did to get away from him. Poor guy - seems he just doesn't know how to pick good women.

  Watch out sisters - he's on the loose again and looking for wife number 3 and he is a MS again working his way back to eldership

  Oh and welcome
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  Puternut

  I was in the borg for about 26 years. Elder for 18 and PO for 2. Things were going well until about 5 years ago when the WT made changes in the 'generation view'. I knew they were trying to buy time. Then the blood issue turned a wrong corner, telling and enforcing dubs, it's ok to take fractions now. Don't worry about all the martyrs who died for their cause. Then things really got sour, when I was involved in a child abuse case, that went horribly wrong. The direction I received from the top was something I couldn't comply with. My then wife, rather that being supportive, decided to leave me twice. My health declined, only slept 2 hrs per night, and went into deep depression. I was left with nothing. I asked to be deleted as an elder, but I wasn't being heard.

  Since I had a bad taste in my mouth with the borg, and felt they were doing the unthinkable, I started to go off the deep end rapidly. I didn't care about the direction from the WT anymore. I lost faith and hope in everything. I felt raped by the borg. My then wife was very controlling and lead a life that was all Jehovah or nothing. I was always 2nd place. But she was raised a JW and knew nothing better than control. I almost took my life, because I had no one to confide in. Got involved with someone one time, because I had no wife to be supportive to me.

  I begged to be df'd, because I was done with this religion. They finally complied with my request.

  Lost all my friends and family in the process, but I am a free man.

  Puternut
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  mindy72

  My heart went out to you as I read your story.

  I am so happy for you now, that you have found peace, a good woman to spend your life with and the children that you love, with you.

  I am also disfellowshipped.

  I was disfellowshipped some 15 yrs ago.

  I have been to hell and back, but I am trully happy with my life now.

  I am sure that your mother is all around you, and she would also be proud of you.
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  czarofmischief

  Hm. My experience was so defining. I was diffed, for something I'd confessed and wept over. Admittedly, it was sleeping with two chicks at the same time, yeehaw, (can you take back repentance? Or maybe they could tell I wasn't TRULY sorry, I mean, two chicks, yeehaw!) Okay, so maybe they could see that I wasn't sorry for it - I mean, two, TWO, beautiful women decided to share an intimate and emotionally vulnerable moment with me, it also involved a certain amount of bondage... (shiver)

  But there was no real effort to work with me. Also, I tried for a year to get back in, and they DENIED me. I was celibate for a YEAR, went to meetings for a YEAR, and they refused me entry on the grounds that they hadn't seen me at the meetings - well, duh, I had to go to the congregation closest to me. They wouldn't even pray with me because it was a form of "spiritual fellowship" which I found ludicrous and demeaning. Eventually, I realized that I deserve better spiritual treatment than the bullshit of the WT Pharisees. This is why I despise the self-righteous so fiercely, like e-watchman. Jesus treated the whores and tax collectors with love and respect, valued the small and worthless things of the earth, and these pompous prats in bad suits dared to sit on their overfed arses and denounce me for doing the very things they secretly craved - they called my sexual expressions foul and sinful, but they sure wanted all the details, didn't they? They wanted to know everything, their halitosis coming faster and faster, they wanted details, did I take off the underwear or did the girls?

  Sick, sad old men who'd sacrificed their desires on the WT altar, and now had nothing to show for it, not even the salvation they'd thought so sure fifteen years ago. Pigdogs.

  CZAR