Hi Maximus-
When I was growing up as a dub in the 1980's college was a major no no. According to Maximus it appears that it still is.
I wanted to go to college so bad but the congregation and my parents were majorly anti-college and pro-pioneering. I figured since my parents were more mature and older than me that I should listen to them. I did the pioneering thing and while there were some fun things that I did while pioneering, I quickly realized that if I were to pioneer for the rest of my life I would also be living with my parents for the rest of my life as well and I did not think that was right or normal. In fact, numerous elders encouraged me to continue pioneering until the new system got here and to never set goals of getting married or having a family etc.
We had situations where individuals from other congregations would go to college. These individuals were usually disciplined by the congregation in some way or at the very least considered spiritually weak. My JW father had no sympathy for these individuals for going against the guidelines of the Society on college education.
I did really well in high school and had numerous scholarship offers. I turned them all down. You guys know the story.
My father used to tell me that he was glad that I was not that intelligent. You see in my father's twisted JW mind it was good to be ignorant and unintelligent because if I was intelligent then not going to college would be very frustrating because I would not be able to use that intelligence to the full in this world. So, my father was proud that I was not that intelligent.
After I left Bethel and could not get a job that paid a living wage, I saw my friends from high school who had gone to college who were doing well. I was furious. I wrote very pointed letters to the Society and told my folks what I thought. While I was at Bethel, I could see the double standards. Those individuals who go to Bethel with an education ARE treated differently than those who go to Bethel without one. They are treated better because Bethel knows that individuals with an education can get a much better deal on the outside.
I used to read my letters and have discussions with my parents about the Society's ban on college. My father denied it. He said that he never remembered the Society ever discouraging anyone from going to college. Even my mother was floored by that statement and she is a true believer when it comes to this cult. She knows that the JWs discouraged college.
It is amazing the difference a few years makes. My sister who was raised as a JW is now a sophomore at Louisiana State University. She lives on campus and my folks actually help her with school expenses. When I was her age, my folks made it clear to me and my brother that if we decided to go to school we would be on our own completely. In fact, my younger brother John stood up to my father and challenged this ruling from him. My parents eventually relented but not have numerous battles including physical battles.
Jeff S.