by Puternut 33 Replies latest jw friends
I hope you dont mind me replying, I know that you asked for no replies, but I could not ignore this post!
Like the others who have replied to your post, I am sorry that you are having such a tough time, I hope that you find some support to help you through this.
I have sent you a private message.
BB
i know you can't replace kids, but i'm old enough to be a "temporary" son until you find a permanent replacement, hehehehehe
I can't imagine denying children their father or visa versa. I feel for both you and your daughters puter I like to think though that ultimately love always finds a way....and I am sure your daughters know how much you love them...and remember the good times you had in the past...and although it isn't easy now hopefully sometime in the future they will find a way back to you.
Till then I think you can see you have a support group and friends here to help you or at least listen and empathise. I know it's not near the same but it's something, huh?
Wishing better days for you (((((puter)))))
and one for sassy too (((((sassy)))))
Puternut,
I just had to reply to your post. It makes me so angry to hear stories like yours. I really feel for you, and hope that you find the strength to get through this hard time.
I have two things I would like to share with you.
Your family are behind a wall at the moment and cannot see what is right and decent - instead of waiting for them to come out - you have to go get them.
I know that there are many on this forum that would disagree with this tact but I would never loose my family again for anything.
My thoughts are with you,
L.
Thanks everyone,
I really don't like to post my sob stories. But for me it's a way to heal. I sometimes need to get the pain out of my head on a piece of paper. And since I know I am not alone with this issue, and others have had similar experiences, I always appreciate the imput. As I have related in other posts, my wife has the kids, and is very controlling. Calls are intercepted or ignored, since they screen the calls. I have sent cards and letters, I hope they went to my kids, and not in the garbage can. Though I am not anticipating a response soon, I am hopefull that someday I will hear 'something'. I have been married for 25 years, and my kids are 19 and 17, so I have spent a lot of my life with them. We always had a busy house life, and I just miss that. I know I will get over this, or learn how to cope. But as it is, I am only human, and till then I will have my moments. Though fewer and far between now. The weekends are the hardest for me.
I am getting there......slowly
Puternut
Puter buddy your not lost, your one of the few people I've seen with a good sense of both where he is and where he want's to go..
Seems like your successful and would be a dad most girls would consider pretty cool for many reasons.
They're controlled by cult influence Puter, don't give up hope for a future filled with both love and laughter which includes your daughters. Someday, I don't know when, these girls will want a relationship with you.... dollars to donuts they will.
Dubs hope and pray for the resurrection to be reunited with dead loved ones while XJW's faithful to real truth hope to be reunited with our living loved ones......what a happy day that will be.
I do know what you mean though, just when I think I have it all together I feel it start to unravel again.....
Besides buddy I look up to you, good carreer, boating.....etc...etc.....spanked Simplesally and drank Sassy under the table .....BTW what went on under that table?
Shotgun, Shitgun, Snotgun.....take your pick
i know you can't replace kids, but i'm old enough to be a "temporary" son until you find a permanent replacement, hehehehehe
Dustyb, We all know you're a real cutie from the real pic you posted, but I suspect you would be a lot of work for Puter. On second thought, maybe you have something there. Might be just what he needs...you want his number?? (Just kidding sweetie.)
Puter,
I myself do not have kids because I'm still a kid myself. I don't really have many words I can say only that I'm sorry that you have to go through the pain that u had gotten put on your shoulders... It's gonna be hard to forget about your kids and never be able to see them again... I had a little brother that was never really born because he died inside my step-moms womb... Never got to really see him at all, and that would have been my fathers a step-moms first boy out of four girls It pretty sad to think about things like this and have it in the back of your mind for the rest of your life. I feel your pain.
I dont know how this will help you in any way, but I hope it has a point to it.
Im really sorry!
C.C
Dearest Puter, of course we will all ignore that post of yours............if there was ever a cry for hugs and love, that was it! I know how you feel, to a certain extent, hon. I haven't seen my three nephews in five years, and my sister recently told me she wouldn't give me updated pictures of them. The newest one I have is of the three of them at the oldest one's wedding in 2001..........I got THAT picture from my mom, who I guess has since been told not to let me have ANY MORE pictures...........what a joke..........I know of course there is a difference in them being nephews and not my own children, but, I held my youngest nephew in my arms only a couple of hours after his birth.......and the oldest is named Alexander because I wanted him to be, and I threw such a hissy fit, his mom gave in to me! LOL! Anyways, hon, know that we are all here for you.........
Love,
Terri
"those are MY kids, and you had better stay the hell away from them. You will NOT counsel them, reprove or admonish them unless I am there. You will never take them into the back room of the kingdom hall for any meeting unless you notify me ahead of time and inform me of your intent, and offer an invitation for me to be present during such a meeting. God has given those children to me to teach and counsel, and although disfellowshipped, I have not relinquished my responsibility to you or the body of elders whatsoever . . . "
Corvin, I think that's an amazingly strong description of a father's love, it brough tears to my eyes.
((((puter)))) I'm so sorry you have to try and learn to live without them for the moment.I'm sure it will only be for a while-children do always want to reconsile and understand eventually.Sometimes when children become parents themselves it starts of a longing to understand the absent parent and to reconsile.I know that's happened in my husband and friends' familes repeatedly.
I can't understand it if it's your wife who's actively trying to keep them from you, whatever way your views have changed.My husband has been very difficult to live with for many reasons and has left three times.but i've recently let him come back to the family home again besause he can't live without the children and it made me feel so guilty.It breaks my heart to see anyone seperated from the people they love and who love them.
Can you not live closer? I suggested my husband bought a house next door....stay close, Puter; they'll think back everyday and remember how much you tried to be with them.
