There's a good chance I will never have children

logansrun

You know, I have the lingering suspicion I will never have children. That's right, no little Bradley's or Bradettes to worry about. Here's my logic: I left the Dub's two years ago (almost) and am still a couple years away from a degree. I'm 27 now. My career path will not likely provide me with oodle's of mu-lah (I'd rather really enjoy what I do than make six figures and have a neurotic, joyless life). I have a lot of personal goals (grad school, hopefully) and am generally more concerned about "The Big Picture" than putting my life on hold for a minimum of 20 years while I:

Deal with an angry and depressed expetant wife.

Have some whiney kid throw up on me.

Pick up toddler from day-care and other damn annoying places.

Fork over thousands just to give my kid perfect teeth.

Explain EVERYTHING for God's sake (and still have them not "get it")

Have a mid-life crisis.

So, knowing me and my iconoclastic, somewhat lazy, swimming upstream nature I think I'll pass. The whole "family" thing just gives me the creeps. When I'm old and want warm fuzzies I think I'll just go to the zoo.

Bradley

Stefanie

Parenting is not for everyone. Good that you can recognize that. I see everyday about people who have kids and shouldnt even be allowed to have a plant.

shera

Ok....I'm glad I have children.Everything has its joys and upsets in life,as well,having children has made me a better person.

You know,all it sounds like,you are not ready to have children.One of these days,you "may" have a better out look.On baby puke on your shoulder or in your face.I enjoy,buying my children things.If I have to spend mu-lah on my children,I feel joy from it.

Its called being settled and no offense to you,but maturity.Also selflessness.

You know as well,there is nothing wrong with not being ready to have children.Its good to get our own lives in order and grow up before we bring a new life in this world.

Stefanie

Ok....I'm glad I have children.Everything has its joys and upsets in life,as well,having children has made me a better person.

Me too. Being a parent brings a certain joy unlike anything else in this world.

logansrun

shera,

And you feel it is a must?

B.

duckie

Logan, by not to have kids would be denying the rest of the world of a mini you, the joy the frustration the fun, can you do that to us!

It is something I too am tyring to deal with too, and I am way older than you (still within child bearing years though) the WT robbed me of having a family in my 20s, you know, "putting the important things first - the kingdom" - "there will be plenty of time in the new system to have families and alike" well that just is not the case. The thought of now having sleepless nights and later ratty teenagers is not something I relish! But I have a new husband (not JW, somewhat agnostic really) and the thought of having a child with him is not a bad feeling.

Things work themselves out by themselves sometimes, maybe we just cope with what life deals us.

Take care.

Duckie.

gumby

I have a lot of personal goals (grad school, hopefully) and am generally more concerned about "The Big Picture" than putting my life on hold for a minimum of 20 years while I:..... Deal with an angry and depressed expetant wife. .......Have some whiney kid throw up on me.

Then go with that.

Do what makes sense to you. You may one day wish you had a child........but we all wish we would have done something we can't change. Besides......your still young and ye ol' nutsack will still be fertile for another 30-40 years ....if you continue to masterbate daily and keep your aprostate healthy.

Gumby

logansrun

You know, it's not just the whole "JW thing." I really don't know if I will have the time or energy to have kids. The commitment is so incredible (if I did have children I would want to do it right) in so many ways. I personally would be rather happy just having a great relationship and persuing my own interests. Selfish? Perhaps. But if I was really selfish I would have kids, pay them little attention and just do "my own thing." I just don't see it as being a great possibility in my life.

Bradley

logansrun

I'll have them clone me after I die. Happy?

lisaBObeesa

LOL!

The 'Big Picture'? Oh man....

You are worried about your child, a person you would love beyond all love you have ever experienced, a person you would die for in an instant?you are worried about the love of your life, the apple of your eye, throwing up on you??

You would rather focus on ?the Big Picture?? LOL! Good one!

-LisaBObeesa

You don't know 'the Big Picture' until you love someone more than yourself. A person doesn't have to have kids to do that, but kids do tend to make it happen.

There's a good chance I will never have children

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