There's a good chance I will never have children

by logansrun 34 Replies latest social family

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  Nosferatu

  Always an interesting topic!

  I, for one, have wanted to have kids for a while now. I want to share the joys of Christmas, birthdays, and all that other shit that goes with them. I want to experience seeing my kids having the joy that I never got to have, and perhaps even get a little joy from it myself.

  I sorta like the idea of passing down my values to a child (I know others on here would think it's scary, LOL!)

  However, I know that there's some people out there that have no desire to have kids. They enjoy the single life, their "freedom", and having all they posess to themselves. There's absolutely nothing wrong with that IMO.

  My own personal feelings on the subject are wanting to experience that piece of life before it's too late. The problem I had for a while was thinking, "would I ever find someone worthy of bearing my children?" I contemplated this for a while, and my solution (if I found noone) was to try and adopt later on in life. However, it looks like I won't have to go that route ;)
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  BeautifulGarbage

  Geez! Whatever.......

  Make an appointment with an MD and get yourself clipped.
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  SixofNine

  Weird. Here I am 40 and single and wanting to have another. I'd adopt but I know my limitations.

  I agree with BG. If you're serious, get clipped. Parenting is not for everyone, hell, it isn't for most, to judge by their style of parenting.
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  simplesally

  You know, Logan, I never wanted to have children. I had my daughter and I love her sooooooooooo much. If I could, I would have another if I could afford it and be able to emotionally handle two kids. She is the most wonderful thing to ever happen to me. I hope I am the most wonderful thing to her.
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  Corvin

  Parenting is not for everyone. Good that you can recognize that

  It is funny; I never thought about whether or not I was meant to have kids. I never wondered if I would be a good dad. I never thought about failure when the kids did come. I just looked at them and loved them at first glance. I dunno why it is I am not worried for their future.

  If you have doubts, Logan, you may be one of those who parenting is not meant for. Enjoy somebody else's chilluns. Be a good uncle or godfather to someone's kids. There are rewards for making a difference in a kids life no matter if they belong to you or not. Cheers!

  Corvin
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  Maverick

  I think you underestimate yourself Runner. Like you, I told myself I would be better off without any children to be responsible for. But when it did happen, and I was 30, I rose to the challenge. And I think you will too! Take what life gives you brother, don't set limits that you have to live down to. Most of the important things I know about myself came from being a father. Billions of men have done it and some have even done it well. I think you would be one of those. My daughter is the only person on Earth that truly loves me for me. A marrage mate may leave you for another, friends may fade away, but your child will be your child, forever.

  This is the worst thing about the WTS, they wish to steal the loyalty and love of our children. Maverick
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  Odrade

  sometimes it's a sign of maturity to decide you DON'T want kids. Good for you. Yeah, kids are great, they're also a pain, and while I recognize that once people have them they tend to love them beyond measure (normal people that is, unless you are a dub then you love them after you luv it up with the GB). But the time to say "I like things my way, no smelly kids" is before you actually produce them, just like you're doing. Good for you.

  I don't want kids either. Love em, thought I wanted to be a mom more than anything, then one day I realized that I just wanted to be a mom because what else could I do that was fulfilling as a JW, not much. Pioneer? done that, ummm, be an elderette? no thanks. Only mom is left to get any status. Then I left, started school, realized I kind of like my child-unencumbered lifestyle, and though that's another path I could take I suppose, I'd rather stay on this one.

  Man, I like to hear that people actually make this decision for or against before baby is already on the way.
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  joannadandy

  Mark me in the "No fruit coming from these loins" class.
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  confusedjw

  ha ha ha ha ha ha ha

  you are so busted Logan - look below to read about the rest of your life.

  Judging from the way the god of this universe works - right now the girl of you dreams is moving in next to you, you'll get hitched, she'll get pregnant and you'll end up as one of those parents that pines around the house when the kids aren't home, boring the crap out of everyone at school and work with stories and pictures, making birdhouses on Saturday with them, designing kites with them on Sundays, catching frogs and fireflies at night with them, building them forts in the living room, reading them stories at bedtime with a different voice for each character just to make them laugh and say "Oh Daddy", coaching Little League and and posting sappy "I love my kids" threads on JWD and be in the happiest place of your life, not even able to remember what life was like or all about before you had them.

  or not I could be wrong
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  Oxnard Hamster

  But if I was really selfish I would have kids, pay them little attention and just do "my own thing."

  Good point. I think a lot of parents, who shouldn't be parents in the first place, don't realize if they want to do "their own thing", then it's best not to have children in the first place. I don't think you are selfish; it sounds to me like you are simply thinking ahead.