What Makes Some ExJWs So Angry & Others So Pleasant???

by minimus 45 Replies latest jw friends

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  Undaunted Danny

  Again; More on Stockholm Syndrome: http://www.dannyhaszard.com/stockholm_syndrome.htm "CONTROL FREAKS WITH A MEAN STREAK"

  The 'flunky','ghouls for god'.Jehovah witness church elders create your disastrously dysfunctional problem in the FIRST place.with their politics,and cliques.Disfellowship,you for the problems that they initated.

  Then, come up from behind and like 'ghouls,'analyze till, their paralyzed',as to why on earth you had a ,shipwreck of your faith.

  So. sometimes in dispair you stumple into an odyssey of self destructive behavior.Leaving the'truth' and going to the dogs is not a self-fulfilling prophecy.They are the ones who 'wreck' you and your family.

  The bastards are truly wolves in sheep's clothing.(Matthew 7:15).Your family is now out of the picture,to render you support,because of the WT$'s satanic divide and conquer family wrecking.

  This is a pure demonic, psychopath,play book.The demons wan't to get back at humanity,and crave anything carnal and harmful,to us because they know they are doomed and wan't to take as many, as the chosen with them.

  GET HELP! FIRST and FAST.

  "There is life after the cult"
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  Corvin

  I know I come across angry in some of my posts, but I have to say that I have never been less angry in my life since I left the org. As for the quality of my relationships, they have never been better. I am actually very happy.

  My wonderful wife, a former 7th Day Adventist, gets to hear me vent at least once a day about the organization. She knows I am just getting 37 years of anger and frustration out of me and she just listens. Whatever anger I have left has a healthy channel and each day gets better and better.

  Those who are having a hard time of it; I know it is not easy and I feel for all of you. God, you just want to scream sometimes.

  Corvin
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  prophecor

  Hi Corvin, I do still have a difficult time of it as I try everyday to de-activate. Most times, all I can do is wait on the Grace of God to bring me to people who might assist me in my situations, also I look forward to helping others get beyond their difficulties in life and having the ability to share in their struggles. In even the most mundane of situations. Living outside the organization brings unique challenges in life. I was not raised in the truth, but spent most of my adult life in pursuit of it.

  After finally making the grade, once in, it became almost as difficult to stay in.

  Its almost like being in the Mafia. "You Can Check In Anytime You Like, But You Can Never Leave..." was a statement in the song "Hotel California", and for many on the inside it rings true. But at times it feels like eventhough I'm no longer there the influence of trying to be so nice still permeates through my pores to the degree that I feel so Un-authentic.

  Its been required of me to tell a few folks off in my life and when they see that the always nice individual behind the screen, that comes out to sling the sword with words, they stand back in amazement as if having been visited by an alien.

  But I've found even that to be a necessary evil.They no longer view my politeness as a reason to declare open season on me.

  "Careful With That Axe, Eugene!!!"
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  Puternut

  Circumstances.
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  booker-t

  minimus,

  I love your question. The answer can be summed up by an offbeat joke. I once heard a born-again christian man say Jehovah's Witnesses are a pain in the butt, and ex-Jehovah's Witnesses are even a bigger pain in the butt. I did not understand it when the man told me this but he explained to me that JW's think they know everything about the Bible and have an superior attitude. But when they leave and become born-agains they are worse because they still have the JW's know it all attitude compounded with the born-again christian know it all attitude so you have a bigger pain in the butt person so this will definitely create a mean and unpleasant personality.
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  Undaunted Danny

  Why Ex members still sometimes defend the Watchtower!

  http://www.freeminds.org/psych/whyleave.htm#defend . This is an unresolved biggie,for many who exit a high demand/control cult like the JW's.WHY, IT IS SO IMPORTANT TO MAKE COMPARISIONS/CONNECTIONS WITH OTHER CULTS.As soon as the client sees the striking similarity of tactics with the other cults it will click with them.

  That's what happened to myself and many others.I was truly amazed that the moonies call their deceptive protocol of lying:"heavenly deception".How this rings and resonates so closely with the Watchtower's;"theocratic warfare".