I told my mom I will never be a witness again. (page 2)

Undaunted Danny

In 1989 my mom told me she would never be a Jehovah's Witness again.

I wised up about 3 years later.Smart women my mother.

crinklestein

So the elder's defending your Dad and covering up the molestation is an error of being human and requires no further investigation or concern.

But the FDS covering up the UN scandal peaks your mom's interest and wants all the facts she can get on it? AND wants to be present when you talk to the elders?

This really shows their divisive thinking. She places more concern about the UN scandal than your molestation, it seems. That's fucked up.

sandy

She places more concern about the UN scandal than your molestation, it seems. That's fucked up

Crinklestein, normally I would agree with you. I almost let this bother me. But I know my mother is concerned with this but, abuse is such a sensitive subject for her. It brings up her own feelings she is too afraid to deal with. Yes it is selfish on her part but unfortunately that is the way it is. I can either stay angry or move on. I chose to move on and have the best relationship with my mother as I possibly can.

She has apologized and cried with me over my father abusing me. I just wish she would get help herself for her own problems. But I cannot force her.

I know it is eating away at her and if I do confront the elders it will be on the molestation and the UN scandal. I will let my mother know what they said about both subjects.

Sassy

Sandy, my guess is you mom might really have it bother her more about that abuse subconsciously, but it might be more than she can handle, so she might not discuss it overly much. For any of us to have a child abused, most especially a family member, the burden that it would place of guilt that someone we did not see something in order to stop it, to protect our child, might just kill us if we face it head on.. I don't know. but it is just a thought..

willyloman

She said to me the "elders are human" you cannot follow them.

And yet, on another thread, we have a dub apologist named "theocrat" insisting just the opposite is true and quoting elder Paul's scripture for support: "Become imitators of me, as I am of the Christ."

sandy

And yet, on another thread, we have a dub apologist named "theocrat" insisting just the opposite is true and quoting elder Paul's scripture for support: "Become imitators of me, as I am of the Christ."

Yes, it is double talk. When the elders make a mistake they are only human but when we make a mistake we are supposed to seek them out as if they have some divine powers.

simplesally

Sandy,

I would refuse to tell the elders all this. They have no bearing on your decision to be in or out. The meeting will only serve to brand you as apostate or df you.

Sassy

I agree, going to talk to the elders is going to only get you disassociated..

stay with the inactive fade..

LyinEyes

((((((((((((( Sandy)))))))))) it takes alot of courage to talk to your Mom about this.

When I told my father I know longer believed that JW's were the only ones who had "the truth", I knew , it was the last thing I would say to him. There was no hope, and I knew it, that he would talk to me ever again after that day. And I havent spoken to him since.

I hope that you can save the mother daughter bond ya'll have,,,,,,,I hope that the seeds you plant in her mind will take root and make her question. It may take some time and alot of patience but I hope you can reason with her.

Remember you don't have to answer to the elders or anyone about what you are feeling right now. Talking to them will only get you d/f and that will make it harder for your Mom to have time to hear all that you need to tell her.

Hope all goes well, keep us updated on it....................., Dede

sandy

Thanks everyone. I appreciate the advice. I am not really afraid of my parent's reaction. It is my siblings I worry about. A couple of them may decide to never talk to me again but I can deal with that. I am ready now.

My mother, as I suspected for a while, has doubts herself. I didn't ask her what they were but they are there. When my surgery is all over and I am well I am going to deal with all of it.

If I thought for one second my parents would shun me I would not have said anything. At least not now. I am hoping the information I share with my family will at least release some of the mental burden of not measuring up to JW standards off my parents, especially my mother.

My relationship with my mother is not and never has been very good but it is better than it has ever been. Her knowing I will not be a witness ever again will not change that.

Thanks again everyone for all your support.

I told my mom I will never be a witness again.

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