1) It should be told well
2) I never lie
What's Your View of Telling A Lie???
by minimus 28 Replies latest jw friends
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Nicolas
Don't believe anything I will say, because I'm a liar... (paradox)
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frankiespeakin
If people spoke only truth every time they opened their mouths,,conversation would be pure torture,,and lead to many more misunderstandings,,hurt feelings, and anger. Therefore I think lying can be very good in many ways,,it can promote peace and lasting freindships. Example: we often take the side of our friend even sometimes when they are wrong,,we stick by them for the most part,,we listen with patients,,and agree where ever we can and many times puposely avoid saying the cold hard truth because we value them.
I'm not saying its good to be a total liar,,or never speak up and tell the truth,,everthing in moderation and in the best interest of all. I think a person should be loyal,,trust worthy,,and as honest as reasonably posible,,but if you only speak cold hard truth,,you will not have very many freinds. Lying if done to a balanced degree in my estimation is very good and not harmful.
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Mulan
I'm not saying I have never lied, but I do believe telling the truth is the best policy. I heard an expert say once that you never forget the truth, but lies are hard to keep track of. It has to do with the way your brain handles information. The truth stays.
So, unless it is an unusual situation, I tell the truth, or try to avoid answering.
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nilfun
Do these jeans make me look fat?
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minimus
Now wait a minute.....Can I trust anything that's being said?
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myauntfanny
I think lying does damage to the person who tells it, and does damage to intimate relationships. But sometimes telling the truth does damage too. In those situations I have to choose which kind of damage I'm willing to put up with. I try to make sure that I'm making a conscious decision to lie and not just doing it automatically. I have found that quite often you can find a way of telling the truth to someone close that doesn't wreck the relationship. And relationships that require a lot of lying, even little white lies, well, I usually don't find them to be worth it.
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catlady
I think everyone lies throughout there whole life. Just from the simple "Hi, how are you?" If don't just give the "fine" that is expected, like you could tell the truth - "not good, the bank's foreclosing on the house, I hate my job, I'm 10kg overweight and they just keep cranking through more reality TV!" But that would kind be a bit creepy and freak people out!
And then you've got the "kid's" lies, yes there is a Santa, Easter Bunny, Toothfairy; no Mummy & Daddy aren't poor; the other kids at school don't hate you, they're just jealous of you.
So what I'm saying is I think some lies are fine and often much kinder than the truth. If I ask my partner if my butt looks fat in these jeans he'd better give the right answer! My moral take on the lying is if it's something inconsequental that is going to make someone else feel better or just make your day easier (do you really want to explain to every homeless person who presses you for cash why you won't leave any rather that just the usual "sorry, I don't have any on me").
But for the big stuff like "The Truth" the lies there are malicious, damaging, evil attempts at justifying their faulty doctrines
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Sunnygal41
I strive to be honest to the best of my ability........there is such a thing as being tactful tho.......brutal honesty is hurtful and damaging sometimes. Some people don't have the right to know "everything", either. I keep in mind this rule of thumb: the more you lie, the more track you have to keep of the things you say. However, if you tell the truth, for the most part, then you never have to worry about what you've said. I think for the most part, being truthful is a good thing.
Terri
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Sunnygal41
Going along with what Frankie said, I don't think the society we live in is geared for total honesty. Eventually, yes, but, at this time, no. I would never lie to deliberately hurt someone. I feel honesty in a close relationship is very important, even tho sometimes it can be pretty sticky.......