Experiences Dating after leaving....... (page 3)

Corvin

All I can say is take it easy. Dating outside the org is fun but there are dangers. In my case, I was a really nice, naive guy and some of the women can really eat you up and spit you out. Same goes for the gals to. Men are bastards in general, so caution.

ApagaLaLuz

Chevy...you ooze sex appeal,

LOL!! I ooze something alright, maybe that's the problem

thanks shotgun *muah*

p.s. I was just thinking the same thing about nemo, with a do' like like how can you resist :)

nemo

Nemo...how can anyone not fall for that hair-do of yours.

This is how I look in the morning, "I'm to sexy for my hair, to sexy for my hair..so sexy by far". I totally plan on being careful (hee hee)! No really I do.. I was just thinking it will be so wierd to spend time with someone other that a JW, I will probably feel guilty and I hate that!

betty boop

if you want some tips my friends and i go clubbing every weekend and meet plenty of people we can help u out..theyve sure helped me

ApagaLaLuz

No you wont Nemo. It will take a while to adjust. When I first left and was dating, being an ex-jw was all I could talk about :)

It took me a while to realize that most guys just dont care :) But be honest about it. The guy I was dating as I was leaving hated religion so much and especially the Witnesses that he started to make me much angrier than I ever should have been. Dont let others influence you like that. But go out have fun, 'sow your oats'. You're going to need to get that outta your system before you can settle down with a quality person.

Or you could be one of the rare lucky ones who finds the man of her dreams on the first try. gggrrrrrrrrrrr

p.s. maybe you should try getting a hair cut :)

shotgun

Betty

if you want some tips my friends and i go clubbing every weekend and meet plenty of people we can help u out..theyve sure helped me

Wow... that's exactly how the cavemen found dates, why mess with a proven method.

ApagaLaLuz

lol Shot gun has a point. That's how I usually get a date. I've given up the trying to look pretty, stimulating conversation, and drinks, and I just skip right to clubbing the man of my choice over the head and dragging him back to my place by his hair while unconscience. (Not to be confused with slipping someone a rufie, by the way)

Doubtfully Yours

Nemo,

My first husband fulfilled all of the JW prophecies about how 'worldly' men would behave. He was unfaithful, wanting to practice anal intercourse (darn!!! That's no pleasure, rather some serious pain!!!), and into pornography big time. Dropped him like a hot potato after a year or so of marriage.

I know for some people his was normal behavior, but not for me. Still isn't. Call me conservative.

Other relationships I had before him were not much better. Best of luck to you!

DY

Sassy

Sassy...I saw that bra bustin boob shot floating around the forum........vixen

hey.. now that pic wasn't me.. (or Chevys)..

Nemo..there are jerks inside the WTS and outside of it.. so you do need to be smart like the others have mentioned. I've dated some really nice non JWs.. it was refreshing not to have the guilt of no chaperone, or if you wanted to have some fun.. ok sex.. I could and enjoy it..

I've really felt like I have made up for lost time I didn't get growing up in my dating years as a JW.. I am enjoying! You should too!!

ApagaLaLuz

it was refreshing not to have the guilt of no chaperone, or if you wanted to have some fun..

Good point Sas. I felt guilty at first ie: "Oh my God! I'm alone in a house with a 'boy,' now we have to have sex. But I dont want to have sex. Oh no, what do I do? What's he going to do."

I found the desire to "have sex" really wasnt quite as strong when I began "unchaperoned" dating. When I dated as JW if we were alone in a car or in a house for a few minutes it was like "crap, we're unchaperoned, we're gonna have sex now." There's this expectation by everyone that that's what happens. I actually got to know people so much deeper when dating worldlies :) The long deep unchaperoned talks make all the difference

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