Did Being A Witness Make You Keep Good Morals? (page 3)

new light

It depends on how you look at it. I consider my JW self to be like a Pharisee. Well-read, law-abiding, but angry and rotten on the inside due to all the restriction, finding people in general to be annoying. Never offered anyone a helping hand.

Now that I'm free, I'm one of the nicest guys around. Sure, if a chance to bed a woman happens, I take it. Yeah, I have a few beers or tokes. Swearing feels really good when I'm angry. But, I live life with a smile now. I love people. I extend kindness whenever I have a chance. Those are the things "morals" are made of, if you ask me, which I realize you did not.

Cherie

My ex-husband was raised in the truth, his Dad was (is, has been, forever will be) the PO of the local congregation. After studying for 2 years, I was baptized and immediately engaged (at 18 yrs of age) to my now ex husband. During our courtship he tried to convince me that it was OK if we had sex since were going to get married anyway. There was all type of justification going on. I always felt bad though...well..after the FACT. :)

I think that if I had not been a JW I would have been way more sexually active though. I was too afraid of losing all my new friends so I was able to keep my teenage sexualities to a miminal. Once I was DF'd though, I got the promiscuousness out of my system. But this made me really appreciate NOW what sex brings to a relationship, not what it brings to me only.

Let's just say there is ALOT of immorality that goes on in the org....being the PO's daughter-in-law I heard alot.

Odrade

I work out at the Y

I boink my hubby anyway I like.

Cuss

Drink Mai Tais at noon if I feel like it

Watch movies without checking the rating

Fellowship with you apostatoes

but now that I'm out, I'm nice, I take a stand on issues based on what I feel rather than what's dictated, don't judge others lifestyle, and pick my friends based on their personality, not their field service report. I think things are much nicer the way they are, and some might argue, more moral.

O

got my forty homey?

I dont think so, I do drink occasionaly and take pain killers, sometimes too many, but other than that maybe not. I guess I have a ticket to the thousand year reign then huh?

talesin

Following someone else's rules out of fear does not make one a moral person, imo.

Making up one's own mind to 'do the right thing', and/or 'pay it forward', seems to be the sign of a person with morals.

talesin /

Agent 1 of 1

I was able to swear alot more when I started fading. Felt damn good. Needed to get it all out. And I'm with you Doc, I watch all the Rated R movies I can. If you know any good ones, tell me. Hehe

Steve Lowry

I think so therfore, I'd be Df'd.

Being raised a JW and never really given the choice to be, it was inevitable that when I became of age (and knowing my independent spirit) that I would have been Df?d. Not for any specific issue (smoking, sex, drugs, etc. ), but because I refuse to allow someone else dictate to me how to live my life. The Watchtower Society never put one crumb of food on my table, so why should I allow them to tell me what I can do or not do, see or not see, say or not say, etc. I make my way in this world. I pay my bills, and no one else offers to do that for me.

Some people need that kind of structure in their lives (WBTS) to make sense of it all, but to me these are the weak minded and the afraid. I choose to be neither. I wish more JW's were like me and then maybe the WBTS would dry up. But that would nirvana.

Steve

BluesBrother

Two questions here. Yes, being raised as a Witness instilled in me a strong sense of morality, not only a fear of getting caught but also a desire to do what was right . That may sound prissy now but that is how it was ... It also made me over conscious of trifling things like using the company telephone or making use of an envelope at work, and that is ridiculous. Of course I had no problem in those days with a belief that every one outside at the end deserved to get slaughtered , and that is a bigger source of immorality in my judgement now

The Watchtower tells us that those that leave become deranged, immoral persons

I know that, and it is not true. I am sometimes told that I am on a slippery slope to debauchery (Oh yeah?) but far from it . I feel a need to prove them wrong. The conduct and morality that I now have come from within and I do not have a problem with it.

My code of morality now is not so much rule based as principle led . There may be times when it could be right to break the rules . Circumstances may dictate, but in general mankinds established moral codes are still right .

Would I be d/f'd ? Yes if they caught me posting on this board

onacruse

No.

If anything, they prevented/interfered with me being the moral person that I am, by my own nature.

"To thine own self be true."

I can, no thanks to them, finally explore, and find, me.

min, I've expressed myself, openly, on this db, in support of what I've considered to be your explorations of honest inquiry. So, if I may ask a question in return:

On what do you base your morals?

Sincerely,

Craig

freedom96

I certainly would be df'd, but I lead a good clean life.

There are simply too many things to get df'd for that have nothing to do with whether or not someone is "moral" or not.

Singing a patriotic song, or celebrating a holiday is a df'ing offense. Has nothing to do with being moral or not.

The WTS twists too many things around to make them sound bad, but, really are just fine.

Did Being A Witness Make You Keep Good Morals?

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