Copsec,
When my aunt died, she was 19 and I was 17, the priest said that God needed her more in heaven. I knew that was ludicrous. And in fact, it made me very angry at God. I told the priest that I needed her more. She was married, the baby daughter of beloved parents, she had nieces and nephews her own age and we all adored her and she us........she was the baby sister of 3 siblings who loved her to death but never spoiled her. That whole event was the beginning of my journey away from the Catholic church.