My friend's i need your help more then ever. (page 2)

blondie

Well, kls, I think I understand. Sounds abusive to me. If he isn't going to change, is there a reason to stay? Are your kids old enough to help you? What about other family or friends? Do you have a job? What about getting help from a batter womans group? PM me.

I will never suggest someone stay in an abusive situation. It doesn't help the abuser either.

Blondie

Wisconsin Coalition Against Domestic Violence (WCADV)

Madison Office: 307 S. Paterson St. #1, Madison, WI 53703 USA
Phone: (608) 255-0539, Fax: (608) 255-3560

Wausau Office: PO Box 6068, Wausau, WI 54402-6068 USA
Phone: (715) 849-3610, Fax: (715) 849-3810

Founded: 1978

Website: http://www.wcadv.org/ in Hmong, Spanish and English

Email: [email protected]

Hotline: Refers to the National Domestic Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or 1-800-787-3224 (TTY)

talesin

kls

It sounds like rough times. I'm here for you, anytime. PM if you want.

talesin

(yah, the little heart thingys don't mean a lot, but PM me! You can take THAT to the bank.)

4JWY

Dear kls: (((())))

I don't even know what to say at this moment as I am fuming - and if my husband was here to read your last thought, he'd be huntin' for your husband. Nothing burns him more than knowing the crap that women put up with from men- no, what I meant to say, is, the crap that men dish out to women!!! Am I reading correctly - your husband IS JW? and he has called you FB all the years??? You deserve more, much more. Believe it.

I hope you make fast tracks outta there. You can accomplish anything you set your mind to! You have friends here and I know, unfortunately, that many have experienced similar conditions in their marriages and will be able to offer you support and suggestions.

Beaming positive thoughts your way...

4JWY & family

jst2laws

kls and everyone,

Just wanted to say some good thoughts are being expressed here. You all are wonderful. I came in and read your initial post, kls, and thought I need to say something fast here. But then I read down the thread and all the right questions were being asked, no leap in judgments occurring (unusual).

29 years as an elder I offered WT advise in matters like this and managed to screw up a lot of lives. Here I see you folks with common sense helping out with such rationality and personal experience . . . . well just give some thought to what your friends are saying, kls. I can see they're doing a better job than I could.

Jst2laws

codeblue

Dear (((Kls))),

It broke my heart to read about your family life. I am so sorry you are being treated so abusively...NOBODY deserves that.

My first husband left me, and HE was a JW...(he got caught up with repetitive CHEATING)...

Please know my thoughts are with you...and if you need someone to talk to who...please pm me anytime....

Hugs,

CodeBlue

ohiocowboy

Just wanted you to know that I wish you the best with what you decide. I have not been in that situation, so cannot really offer any guidance with what to do, but please know that you are in my thoughts!

Xandria

Ditto, what Ohio said goes the same for me. I know as a child of divorce it is not easy. But, I cannot tell you what to do because I haven't been there myself. But as you go through this I know that I can keep you in my thoughts and make you smile from time to time. This is something that will have it's rollercoaster moments. As a kid, I wondered how the hell did I get involved in this craziness.

It just snow balls at times. Just knowing you have friends helps.

Take care,

X.

When life hands you lemons, ask for salt and tequila!

lisavegas420

i am tired of being called F--B--, that is a name i have had for thirty years

getting snapped at bitched at.

he was never home, gone seven days a week, I have stayed home to raise my kids and when i told him many times i wanted to work outside the home he would tell me " what can you do you can't do anything and if you do find work you will only get minimum wage, you will never make the money i do

Now that is some Bull Sh*t. I'm sorry you are living this way and it has continued as long as it has...The counseling suggestion is a good one. Even if you just use it for yourself as you start a new life that doesn't include letting people treat you that way.

Just go get a job...(So what if it is less money than he makes.) Go take some classes too. Take a fun class. something only you are interested in. Once you get used to being around people that show you respect,........Well, you will leave when you are ready.

Lisa

kls

First chance to get back, husband been around all day yesterday. As i sit here crying ready your replys, i am overwelmed. At first i was afraid to post that i had asked my husband for a divorce because i was scared and embarresed,probably from when i was a kid, you know when things happen in the home they stay there,even if you go to school black and blue .

Anyway,, he is acting like i never said divorce, this morning he can up to me and said he loved me ,obvious he is in denial. I told him we need to have a NICE long talk. Can he on his part do that, we shall see

My kids don't want to hear about it so that is fine , i have a sister ( real one, blood ) that knows it all. As far a job that is no problem, my brother inlaw is always looking for help

Stay tuned,, as my saga continues.

Double Edge

KLS...

It sounds like you standing up him weakens him. Good for you.... no one deserves to be abused, mentally or otherwise.

The big thing he say's is jws don't kill people

Neither do Quakers, Mennonites and numerous other Christian religions.... they too are pacifists.

My friend's i need your help more then ever.

Wisconsin Coalition Against Domestic Violence (WCADV)

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