by kls 26 Replies latest social family
Hello Kathy
I just want to say that there is something worse than a traumatic seperation, divorce - that is maintaining a loveless marriage. Unless you have young children or some other very good reason, get out now . Or live to be an old lady and have nothing but unhappiness to look back on
Go through the trauma, come out the other side and start your own life, "because your worth it!"
kls,
The only additional advice I can offer is this: don't make any statements of action on your part you are not willing to go forward with. If you say you'll do something and then don't do it, it will just make your husband think that you don't mean what you'll say. If you really want to divorce him, then say so, and then do it. If you're not absolutely positive about divorcing him, then don't threaten him with it unless you attach conditions conditions he must meet for you to stay. If he breaks the rules, then follow through with your promise. I know there might be exceptions, so I'm not saying you follow this to the letter. But in general, let your yes mean yes and your no mean no. Somebody else said that first!
Good luck.
Farkel
muah KLS
I dont have any advice, and have never been in your situation. But I just wanted to let you know that I'm thinking about you. I've had friends in similar situations and I've how hard it was for them. You hang in there. You rock!!
I asked my husband for a divorce yesterday.
Maybe this is the source of your difficulty. Why are you asking?
If you want a divorce, go get one. You don't need to give advance notification, you don't need permission.
Wishing you the best,
Nina
kls, from what you said, you were and are in a abusive relationship.. you do not deserve this! Are the kids grown and out of the house?
Take steps for you.. you do not need any more years being treated this way and we are here for you
I'm so sorry to learn that you have been subjected to this kind of abuse for years.
kls, here's a (((((hug)))))) for you, and some support .
kls
I do hope that your husband WAKES UP and finally gets a clue. He's going to lose a LOT very quickly if he doesn't.
bebu
KLS -
I'm really sorry you are in so much pain right now. I know it will be hard to do, but if you really want to get away from him, then the best thing is to go ahead with it. The more you linger the worst things will get emotionally.
The big thing he say's is jws don't kill people and they are the only religon that goes by the bible and understand it.
This is the type of elitism exuded by the JWs that irks me. They think they are the only people with any morals or enough sense to read the bible. Like others have said, there are lots of people that don't kill people. Do the JWs honestly believe they are the only group that doesn't condone killing? I was really having doubts that leaving was the right thing, but reading this reaffirmed my beliefs.
I think it's time you gave your husband a wake up call.
