by minimus 26 Replies latest jw friends
Minimus....what is up?
From one who has been away a long time; and looks back with no regret; I can say that you can have as much slack as you need.
We all heal and rebuild our lives on different time schedules. We are all working for the same goal.
Frank
...and I did not post this 3 times....
WTH
I spent half an hour responding to the last thread on this topic to no avail. ( the bad fortune to have cross posted with the closure).
Mini resurrects the same topic under a different poster and on it goes.
I guess I have nothing to say.
I think what is being suggested here is being extra tolerant of bad behaviour from folk who have just exited from the JW religion because they need time to hone their social skills and polish up their manners.
Leaving the dubbies is hard work sure enough, but if we enable people in their delusions about what is acceptable, aren't we just prolonging the problem?
I mean, forgive my bluntness, but there is hardly anything less attractive than an adult having childish tantrums because they might have been denied a proper adolescence many years ago.
Also, the many posters here who have slogged their way through their own hang-ups, aren't going to feel too kindly disposed to someone who requires special treatment.
Just to illustrate the point: Many years ago when I went through my own personal emotional crisis, I found that the people who had been through the same thing were actually less sympathetic towards me than those who had never experienced it. It was a "Yeah yeah, we've been there, hurry up and sort yourself out, you ain't gonna find me propping you up, I'm done with all that".
Englishman.
Well Eman, maybe that is not exactly the way it goes, but i would suggest that those who have BT&DT often know antisocial bahavior when they see it. That gets to the crux of this matter entirely. Say for instance if I went to your Barbie and complained about how bad your party sucked...AND I did it the whole time...well if someone were my friend they would pull me aside and kindly advise me to mind my manners or go home or leave or whatever. Now, I figure the first months or year someone is here they are subject to all kinds of emotions and fears, paranoia, and lashing out. For those we should have extra tollerance and understanding AND IMO there is much tollerance for people who come here and honestly have questions and are willing to engage in dialogue.. For those who choose to stay then they are making a conscious choice to be here and play nice or not.
I also agree w/littlewitch...this is like attack of the clones or something...
Sincerely,
District Overbeer
This is about Minimus wanting to be able to compare people (ie. me and the other moderators) to the JW Elders when he doesn't get his own way.
I see . . .
Well, I think it goes without saying that any community, be it online or in your town, needs rules that all must abide by. Even with a the vast amount of freedom to say what you want on this board, there must be limits and boundaries, and somebody has to inforce them. I can only see that Simon and most of the other moderators are pretty much on target most of the time. If I think someone is being partial or unfair, including moderators, I can certainly speak my mind . . . lol . . . and we all know that I do.
I am tempted to borrow a term from our dear Valis to describe this thread, but I will refrain.
I like you Min, I hope you can soon get your thinking adjusted in harmony the way we xjw's conduct ourselves so as not to bring reproach upon our lord and savior, Simon LeBon's, good name. JK
Corvin
Corvin, don't believe every inspired utterance. We're dealing more with personality issues than other things.
