I went through this for about 30 years after I left the KH. That included my father tracking me down and sending the locals after me, wherever I went.
I even thought of going to a SPANISH congregation, walking in the door and leaving after 5 minutes for a couple of times a month. I could say that I went to the KH; trouble is, he would want to meet the "bros. @ my Hall" to keep tabs on me.
I thought about going back and DOING ABSOLUTELY NOTHING: 1 or 2 Sundays a week, no socializing; likely I would be treated as a DF/DA, though I wasn't. I suppose that I could, have told the servants that I was just there to "fulfill an obligation" and to leave me alone. I suspect there would be too much needling and it wouldn?t' work.
My "closet 'postate" brother told my "doing everything according to the KM" sister that my moving 3000 miles hadn't kept our over zealous father from being a pest.
I told him once that I would go back to the meetings but that I WOULD NEVER GO OUT IN SERVICE AGAIN. I could hear the lump in his throat as he went silent for moments. They a re so transparent: first the meetings, then service, then meeting parts etc. They are so dumb: we see the pattern, they taught it to us.
That did stop him in his tracks, for a moment. I did this to JW in Asia, face-to-face. It is priceless to see one of them speechless.
Towards the end, the Old Man did enough things wrong that he was technically guilty of STALKING. The laws had finally changed enough so that he became guilty of a Criminal activity. I wanted to get my brother together for a "united front" and present Legal Notices to Dad with a Family Law attorney, but he wouldn't cooperate.
I wanted him to know that there would be UNENDING LITIGATION if he didn't leave me alone.
By this time, nobody was talking to him, including my "by the book" JW sister. So, I just let it alone, as this slowed him down quite a bit.
I let the clock run out: he died earlier this year. I finally have peace. And I find that he was the only thing that caused me to be a JW.
I have actually shed a tear over him this Father's day. It was for the life that he wouldn't let us with peaceful family relations.
BTW, 6,624 people can be wrong. 6,000 to 6,000,000 is 1 in a million; there are all kinds of logical retorts to that. Tell her that any such sneak path hints at JWism will be met with a rebuttal.
You could tell your mother, in no uncertain terms, that she is WRONG and there will always be a lecture or struggle in things if she doesn't just let it go!!!
I wish better success to you, though I can't tell you how to go about it. And welcome to the board.
Mustang