To JanH

by bigboi 53 Replies latest jw friends

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  Mishnah

  Ven, I realize that having Jan as a exJW buddy makes it hard for you to come right out and say what you mean, and that is that is a jerk. If you did that (and you'd be right by the way) then regardless of how friendly you two have been in the past Jan would turn on you faster than the WT kicked him out of the org.

  He is only your friend if you agree with him and do not make any negative remarks about his outrageous behavior. Does that sound familiar? Exactly. Jan is basically the exact same as the org. he left in terms of intolerance. You would be much better off speaking your mind about Jan the same way you do about the org. and then you'll see that there is no difference at all in terms of attitude.

  Psychologically speaking, Jan is crying for help even though he is not actually aware of it. But it will not do him any good to cower to his verbal assault the way you do. Let him know how you really feel! Because he'll sure give you hell when you do and then you'll know how he really feels!

  Mishnah
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  DannyBear

  Man even the newbies see right through this prick!

  Yes JanH Iam calling you a real little prick!

  Dan
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  SixofNine

  Bigboi, that went well I think. But please, do try to be a more palatable fascist.
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  VeniceIT

  Ya ok Jan can be jerk sometimes, we all are!!! I've disagreed with Jan before and still do on several issues. But I don't TAKE it soo stinking personal and have to attack people even if they attack me what's the point. And umm you must not know me very well to make such a statement!!! I'm not intimdated by ANYONE!!! So if choose not to chew people out I do it because I choose not too!! and I think that more people should think of others feelings. But that's just me.

  Ven
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  Prisca

  Bigboi - You've earned my respect with your apology. It takes a real man to apologise in public like this.

  JanH - I'm surprised at your arrogant dismissal of bigboi's apology, I really am. I hope you one day learn to accept people and their faults just as we have to accept yours.
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  larc

  Bigboi,

  I think your remarks were made out of ignorance, not malice. I don't think you fully understood how insulting your remarks are to people in Europe, who as children remembered the horrors of Hitler's war. If they were too young, they have parents who experienced it first hand. It was after I pointed this out that Kent became so inflamed with you, and I can't blame him. They have had a lot less time get over it than black people in America have had time to get over slavery.

  I think it is time for Black America to get a sense of historical perspective. Now, if JanH and Kent want to forgive you or not is there business. I suspect they will after awhile if you prove to be a civil individual. For myself, I think it is a good thing that you made a public apology.

  In the mean time, I think it would be a good idea if we talked about our common source of pain, the WTBTS and set aside the other shit.
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  DannyBear

  larc,

  Iam a little surprised at your comments.

  Point of fact, we have bigboi (who now stands alot a bigger imo) appologizing for his error. Should be enough, according to the collective intelligence on this board. At least that was the 'uproar' from the peanut gallery as far as Kent's pathetic attempt at a non-appology to TJ, for his uncivilized ranting.

  Now by your comments, are still heaping coal on bigboi, he made a valiant attempt to appologize. But was rebuffed and scorned with a reverse slap from Jan, calling bigboi a 'faciist'. Jeeez man, what is it about these abuser's that makes people roll over, and just let them get on with their smut?????

  Instead of raking Jan over the coals for his insensitivity you go after bigboi? I just don't get it.

  Are we all so pathetic and in need of some affirmation, from anyone, including unknown and unseen persona's on the internet, that we cower and grovel after such pathetic 'pricks', who apparently are able in a sane moment or two, to put several sentences together, that make sense?

  Not me. People who allowed this conduct to pass, on the premise oh its just jan, should be ashamed.

  Danny
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  Scorpion

  DannyBear,

  Very insightful! You have guts, I like that.
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  larc

  Danny,

  I think they both have acted like pricks. I don't think either one of them are pricks. As I said at the end, let's talk about our common source of pain, and forget all this shit.

  Danny, I don't need the affirmation of anyone. I am pretty much an independent thinker, and call it as I see it.

  Something you probably missed on the deleted post was that I wrote directly to JanH about his style. He answered back "point noted".

  Frankly, this whole thing gets tiresome. Who insulted who first and who was the most insulting. If individuals would just drop it, these endless, tiresome threads would go away, as well they should.
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  ianao

  DannyBear:

  Don't worry dude, JanH is just everyone's favorite jerk.

  (BTW, his inability to accept an apology gives great insight into his inability to apologize, doesn't it?)

  JanH:

  You're my favorite jerk. I think you have a keen mind and sharp tongue. Great ingredients for a super jerk!

  larc:

  No offense old buddy, but I agree totally with DannyBear. Next time you play peacekeeper, pull BOTH participants to the side, not just the one who (APOLOGIZED).

  bigboi was wrong in his own eyes and trying to correct his perceived mistake. He then was lashed at for apologizing, THEN you came along and bopped him on the head with a stick.

  To quote a disney film: "BAD LAMMA!!" (slap slap)