Hey, bigboi and Danny, if you two jokers don't get up off a me, there just MIGHT BE ONE! Ya'll better WATCH it... ya'll don't know ME!!
bigboi:
I don't think the insult, damaged him emotionally in any way. I feel this is a personal conflict between two ppl who share a mutual dislike for one another. Nothing more, nothing less. I am of course willing to stay out of his way, if he stays out of mine. However, I reserve the right to defend myself and any others at my own discretion, at any place, time and in any circumstance here or elsewhere.
You have the right to feel whatever way you feel, but, like I said, I don't like your tone with me, young man.
DannyBear:
Anyone who takes on the mantel, of some kind of special dispensation, allowing he/she to berate, chide, abuse, or dismiss anyone on their cue, is out of line. Civility will do away with all this mess, treating ANYONE and EVERYONE with respect, will solve the problem. It is not 'rocket science'.Right now JanH has done nothing but show disrespect for anyone (except for larc-"point taken" a meager way of saying 'maybe your right') that has taken exception to his conduct.
Er ... ummm... "point taken"? <g> but was that "rocket science" comment a dig at me? Just what were you trying to say, pal? You've been warned... don't push me...
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mommy
Oh, mommy, you most great and gifted Jedi,If I may risk incurring your wrath, oh Most Exalted One
oh great Noble One.
I understand that this may mean little to you, but I'm sorry about that. I didn't mean to offend. Just a little more of the joke I started when you reached "Jedi" a few weeks back. It's a little tired, I know. I'll cut it out--you won't see it again.
Just for clarification, though, I don't have a "persona" as the dictionary defines it: "a role that one assumes or displays in public or society; one's public image or personality, as distinguished from the inner self." I understand many do, but I never have. It's one reason why I never became a MS or elder. The things I could tell you...
Here's a teeny tiny example of the kind of person I was, am, and will always be: I always bought a four-door car so I could use it in field service. We had a very good jazz station here for many years, and that was what I'd have on when we went door-to-door. I still remember the time when a young-up-and comer (an elder now) was horrified when the CO rode in my car and I STILL played my jazz. Why, that just wasn't done when the CO was riding in your car!! Was I crazy? Most people went and dusted off their Kingdom Melodies tapes when he was in town. It's a little thing looking back now, I know, but I didn't give a rat's ass about political correctness even before there was a term and titles meant even less. No, girlfriend, I have no "persona."
You make valid points, of course. Apologies will not undo what has been done and the one apologized to does NOT live under some un/written rule to accept. I understand all that. Rightly, you said:
Just because an apology is made, does not mean they are sincere, or should be revered.
I do not disagree with your introductory comment in this thread, either:
An apology does not require a reply or forgiveness.
An apology does not make a person a better person, or more respected.
but I'm quite certain that no one is "revering" bigboi in the sense of thinking that now he's all great and wonderful. If you think that's what's being done here, it is because you are misreading. Bigboi made a mistake when his emotions got out of whack and has done what honorable people do when they err -- they apologize, whether the apology is accepted or not.
However, one synonym for "revere" is "admire" and that word could very well apply and here's why. At least three people hurled unkind, tasteless, disrespectful words toward each other in that ugly thread as it spiraled down toward the gutter and lower. So far, I say SO FAR, bigboi is the only one to apologize for his misspoken words. Sincere or not, indicative of future behavior or not, it remains a discernible difference that cannot be ignored.
peace,
todd