by onacruse 21 Replies latest jw friends
A sometimes too characteristic aspect of our human behavior.
In some ways, it seems like the db environment fosters (even promotes) such "liberty."
Why do we (and I include myself) let ourselves devolve to what is imho the lowest common denominator?
Craig (of the "asking why do we do what we do?" class)
Really I don't know ... I just feel like I always have a reason ... (BEFORE, not always AFTER)
care to furnish some examples for our edification?
lol or is asking that being passive-aggressive????
LOL well Xena here's an example that drives the point home:
John Bradshaw renown ACOA speaker uses this analogy. After leaving your dog home for an entire day he greats you at the door yipping,jumping, eager to see you and while you are petting his face he's peeing on your leg.
How that for passive aggressiveness?
Kate
I'm interested in hearing examples of passive-aggressivness in the db environment....
P-A Traits:
FEAR OF DEPENDENCY
FEAR OF COMPETITION
OBSTRUCTIONISM
FOSTERING CHAOS
FEELING VICTIMIZED
MAKING EXCUSES & LYING
PROCRASTINATION
CHRONIC LATENESS & FORGETFULNESS
AMBIGUITY
SULKING
I guess it's me, but these feelings don't seem like huge jumps for someone that left a highly controlling cult. Especially someone that felt victimized or betrayed. Instead of calling a person with P-A traits one that has devolved into "the lowest common denominator", why not try to understand where they are coming from? Also, I see this term tossed around way too much.. few here have a degree in Psychology.
Edited to add: Are we talking about this db, or dbs in general?
I hated this aspect of the WTS. Joe publisher does some rotten, bone-head thing to you, you call him on it, he asks you to forgive him ...you have no choice...you may KNOW the turd did it to tick you off but you have to forgive the dweeb. Next week he does something similar again. I'm sooo sorry, but you have to forgive me or you are unloving!
I thought about this when this elders son, (MS) screwed his best buddies, (MS) wife, (elders daughter). The dope forgave him and pleaded for him not to be DF'd. Which he was not and this was the third time he was catch committing adultery, his own wife divorced him over it. If he had screwed my wife, I would have taken a baseball bat to the SOB, took out his knees, then broke all the small bones in his body uncluding his facial bones, (he's a pretty boy). Then when I got out of jail I'd have asked him to forgive me cause I lost my mind! He would just have to! He would think real hard the next time he wanted another mans wife. Mav
Mav-
No way are you a P-A, procrastination is not evident in your behavioral tendencies according to SP's list. Do you prefer wood to aluminum?
Aluminum, makes a nice "ping" when in hits just right!
I wasn't referring to me being PA, but a lot of the Dubs using this. My ex would pull this all the time on me. "Oh! did I do that wrong again! Silly me!" Mav
In my experience people are passive-aggressive when a) they feel they have no power, b) they really have no power, or c) they want to see themselves as a nice person, so they can't just come out and raise hell when they are pissed off.
