On the board, I think we all at times get a little touchy. There are REAL people here.
Are You Thin Skinned or Are You Easy To Deal With?
by minimus 36 Replies latest jw friends
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ColdRedRain
I'm so thin skinned, you can see my blood vessels and I'm black.
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shamus
On the board, I think we all at times get a little touchy. There are REAL people here.
I disagree. Most posters here are what they want to be percieved as, not who they really are. True, they are real people, who post from they're home PC's. To meet someone in real life you will probably find that they are much different than any 'personality' you will find here.
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Big Tex
I'm just a little guy who sits in the corner, watching the world go by.
When I was a JW, I stood up to teachers and the other kids because I was doing something I believed in. Of course it wasn't too smart to get up in front of class and give speeches on the evils of Christmas in mid-December or preach to kids on the playground, but then I never said I was the brightest bulb in the batch.
Then came the time when I no longer believed. And so a couple of COs, a DO, and a half dozen congregations, several hundred people in all, put tremendous pressure on me to give in. They were right, they told me, and I was wrong. Day after day, meeting after meeting for nearly a year, people delighted in picking apart my life, making assumptions and judgments on things my mother had told them.
"I'm dying of cancer," she said "All I want is to my son to forgive me and talk to me just once before I die."
It's funny though. She didn't want that at all. It was all a lie. See, she had told me when I was little that if I ever told the family's dirty little secret, she would kill me. I had told, but I had waited till I was 26. But she kept her promise anyway. She spent her dying months 'killing' me in the Witness world. She made sure every Witness who ever knew me would hate me for this "awful way" I treated a dying woman.
And if you believe that one, I'll tell you another: people I had known over 15 years didn't care when I told them the truth. They didn't care that I had called my mother time and again. They didn't care when I told them what really happened. That was when I learned a hard lesson. There are people who show you one face and another behind your back. I also learned there are some people who only like to fight and to pick apart other people. The pain they cause is irrelevent to them. I don't understand that at a gut level, but I accept it as a reality of this life.
I came through that experience knowing two things about myself: I've never once in my life let others pressure me into something I didn't want to do. No one can make me do or say anything I don't want. I'm in control. I say.
The price I pay for that is that it is easy for me to hear the voices of my past and believe the lies I was raised to believe about myself. Strange dichotomy really. So I developed a survival tool that's come into play on the internet: don't listen to those voices. There are sometimes I accept the fact that some want only meaningless fights and to pick me apart. I cannot control that. I can only control myself. So I don't go there. I don't listen. It's not hard if you learn to suppress curiosity.
So I suppose that makes me a thin skinned Texan who is a pain in the ass. Yeah I'm strange, odd really. But that happens when you live the life I've had. Call it collateral damage.
Chris
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kls
Shamus , i am what i am . I can't speak for others but i am myself . Blond hair ,blue eyes and can get lost driving around the block.
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shamus
Yes, KLS, that's who you are, but until this moment I only knew that you were a woman married to a man who is a dub, nothing more. This place is nothing but silly user names, avatars, and selective revelations of ourselves. It's only natural that we try to filter out what we don't want people to know, or see about ourselves.
What you are on this forum and what you are percieved as are two completely different things. If I went to an 'apostafest', I'd be far far far different than the argumentative and sometimes blunt person here. That's just an example that I use on myself, so as not to offend some who post here.
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kls
You know what Shamus , you are a pretty insightful guy and smart to.
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SheilaM
(((((((BigTex)))))))) You see yourself sooooo wrong. You to me are BIG Tex, you are so damn strong to have survived what you did and to come out of it so gentle and kind. I understand about family like that, they try to destroy you once they can't control you....it hurts I KNOW but you know they can kill you but they can't eat you
You thinskinned NAH nor any of the critical stuff you said.....Cruzan knows what she has and do you think she would have chosen a dud NO WAY
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outoftheorg
WHEN I WAS YOUNG AND WHEN I WAS A BELIEVER, I HAD A VERY THIN SKIN AND YET I TOOK ALL THE DISRESPECT AND DID NOT DEFEND MYSELF.
NOW I AM EASY TO GET ALONG WITH AND IGNORE THE NONSENSE, SINCE IT IS UAUALLY NOT WORTH THE EFFORT TO REPLY. BUT IF I AM PUSHED PAST A POINT, YOU WILL SEE ANOTHER ME..
IF IT GOES EVEN FURTHER YOU WILL SEE A THIRD ME AND IT ISN'T A PRETTY PICTURE.
Outoftheorg