How do you cheer yourself up? (page 3)

seeitallclearlynow

Nothing works when I'm really upset except time or a change in the circumstance or relationship that is causing the extreme discomfort.

Being older and more experienced (finally) in seeing that those days come and go and they usually work themselves out is about the only comfort I can muster. Somehow it still feels like the "end of the world" but I make myself consider the possibility of light at the end of the tunnel and I consider the possibility that just maybe I am once again overreacting to something.

That doesn't mean I don't make every effort to distract myself from my unpleasant thoughts and feelings - I do everything I can think of so as not to dwell on the unpleasantness. Still, all it does is help me cope; I don't feel any better.

I'll read, watch movies, play cards and computer games, watch the news (now actually, that does always help!), talk to people if I can dredge up the energy to do that without being a total downer for them, do housework (that helps too), etc.

When I had gardens and yards, I did a lot of yardwork; I enjoyed it but it did not make me feel better.

Ok, so then these help: watching world news and doing housework.

Princess

I go for a good long run. I think over what I need to do or say to fix things or find a way to accept the change. Either way, it really helps me cope. I might still be upset when I get home but I feel better physically.

Netty

I tell call my babies over and say give mama a big giant hug. And we hug and hug and hug, great thing about their ages, they are still at the age where they love it. Im like you too, love the long hot soaks in the bath tub. I also have this thing I do, its a conditioning treatment for the hair, but they give me a 20 minute head massage, nothing relaxes me more.

Special K

Hi Sirona

When my J.W. family get me down because of being cut off.

I say this little thing in my head. "Im breaking the chain, I'm breaking the chain". My kids would have been 3rd generation J.W.'s.. and I need to keep them away from that religion.

They are growing up through their life with their eyes wide open, not narrow minded tunnel vision. They have freedom to choose their paths and know that my husband and I will ALWAYS love them.

So that's what I do. I have a long talk with myself like that...and that seems to work.

love

Special K

Sassy

I have been hurt by many things in my life.. even before leaving the dubs.. so I have cultivated a skill in blocking out usually what hurts.. in effect I put it in a box, up on a shelf, in closet with the door shut.. so most of the time I don't let them get it down. I am not sure if it helps, because when something hits me wrong, by not dealing with it, no doubt it can w/o notice all come tumbling down when I become vulnerable..

when I am first upset, before it gets put in the box of emotions in the closet?

well.. sometimes I come online and vent/talk with friends.. or make phone calls..

meet up with someone for a drink (I call that my attitude adjustment drink.. long island teas work well for that.. lots of alcohol.. quicker mellow down)

or....sometimes I cry.

DireStraitJacket

I think of an old friend or acquintance who I haven't spoken to for a long time, and phone them or go out with them. It helps take my mind off things now, and brings back good memories of "happier times"

or I try doing some piece of work or a project I've been putting off for a while, like cleaning my room, something that gets my mind totally absorbed.

alcohol also helps :) but thats for rare occasions

pennycandy

I am so happy in my life I really rarely get down. But when I do, it's usually a superficial reason that just sets off a little case of the blues. I don't do anything to get rid of it. I guess I kind of brood. You know how Elton John said it feels so good to hurt so bad. I use it as an excuse for some time to myself, go to bed early, get a few extra hugs from hubby, and I'm back to happy in a day or so.

Most every day I thank the Lord that I don't have much to be upset about these days. I'm very fortunate in my life.

Love to everyone with the blues right now . . .

Country Girl

First of all, when I am that down I realize that it is what it is.

I think of all the things that *could* happen to be my circumstances, and that helps.

I play with my animals or go for a long ride on my horses on a beautiful nature trail.

I take a hot bath and listen to the water after submerging my ears.

I write in my journal or start working on my art.

I talk to a friend or two, or I eat some good food that I like and snuggle down in my bed and sleep.

I read a book.

I do some busy work around the house, I garden or work on my house projects.

Unfortunately, I deal with this all the time as I have chronic depression and I fight it every day. I also have many phobias that I deal with. I just work it day to day.

Country Girl

Dawn

I find shopping for new clothes, make-up, whatever - something to buy myself because I deserve it! Or I take myself out for a nice lunch.

Then I meet up with friends and have fun talking about how crazy my dysfunctional family is.

StinkyPantz

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Alcohol and/or sex.. in whichever order.

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