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Bryan

Hello Stuck In,

I'm glad you have decided to inform yourself. If you would like to really see some information about the WT from their own publications, go to http://quotes.watchtower.ca

Take care,

Bryan

dorothy

Glad you found your way here! You seem nice, hope we get to chat sometime

I know what it's like to be in your situation. I went to my last meeting when I was 18 1/2 years old. I did as much as I could to get out of meeting attendance and field service. I made sure I had lots of homework, especially on Tuesday & Thursday nights. Even when I didn't have lots, I would sit up in my room writing in my journal which looked like I was doing homework. If you want to get out of field service, just say you're doing lots of witnessing at school (take some magazines with you and throw them in the trash on the way there). Lie on your monthly report (lots of people here have done that).

You have 8 months until you turn 18 years old. When you turn 18, you have the right to choose if you want to attend the meetings. I was dragged to them an extra half a year. During that time, I started rebelling lots. I gave my bible study conductor a hard time (I was never baptized). I recieved lots of threats from my parents, and it was a very emotionally difficult time for me. You'll likely experience something similar.

My suggestion is to get a job and start saving for moving out. You may need to if you want to keep your sanity. It will make leaving the JWs much easier for you. If you need to keep your spirits up while going through a difficult time, just remind yourself that after you make it through, you'll be free. Things WILL get easier.

I wish you the best of luck in your journey out of the JW religion.

Also, here's some websites you may enjoy looking at:

http://www.freeminds.org
http://www.silentlambs.org
http://quotes.watchtower.ca/

kls

Welcome Red So Deep, you are in good company here . This forum with lot's of nice people that you can talk to help you deal with JW issues. You have made a big step coming here and talking about it.Feel free to ask for help or information.

DireStraitJacket

welcome Red So Deep!!
Nosferatu gave some excellent suggestions, especially about moving out. Unless your
parents are reasonably liberal, life at home will probably become unbearable once you have
made your choice to leave public. This just adds to making things depressive..
good luck, theres plenty of support available on this board..

DSJ

Odrade

Welcome Red! Good to have you here. Please be careful about the personal details though (your pic, and your name, etc), we've seen some pretty tense situations come about with parents discovering their kid's activities on this site.

One of them had to have his whole account deleted in a hurry, posts, everything, because of discovery. Maybe he'll come on here and tell you about it if he catches this. So be careful, and have fun.

Odrade

cyber-sista

Welcome Andrew,

What the WT Org doesn't want you to know is that there are thousands of JWs leaving every year (thus all their paranoia propaganda about the internet). No, we aren't all leaving because we desire to live an evil life of greed and debauchery. I was in for 20 years of my adult life. I never commited a WT sin. I left because I loved my family (long story much of it told over the months in my back posts). I left after what happened to me and the abuse I saw that happened to others in the Organization. I also saw WT policy changing and started to study the history of the Organization at first using only the WT CD. Now my conscience no longer allows me now to be one of JWs despite the consequences. This will be your journey and your choice Andrew--you are the one in control of your life. We are only here with our own personal stories and to offer each other support and a listening ear.

The best to you,

cybs

Atilla

Welcome Andrew

I wish I would have questioned my belief system when I was your age. Your doing so shows remarkable courage. If I were you, I would take it slow for now, seeing that you are still living with your parents. Perhaps, you could tell your parents you want to go to college. This may be the best way out for you. You will be able to move out hopefully, maybe even a safe distance from all of your current JW friends and think independently for awhile. Going to college will also give you an excuse to brush off meetings and field service.

By your second year of college, you could make your stand and just let your parents and others know how you feel. Hopefully, they will be able to respect you for that.

I would call it a college fade.

jgnat

It is too bad that the natural youthful desire to develop your own personhood is opposed by the society. Know that your feelings of independence are very normal. Healthy even! I bet deep down the teeny-goodies at the hall are insanely jealous. I think the best way to get through the next few months is to develop a sense of humor about the whole thing. I dunno, like wearing a tie with tiny little crosses on it. Leaving candy canes in the bathroom. Little things.

Just wondering, is your dad the suspicous type who might check where you have been browsing on the internet? Remember to erase your cookies and your history!

Freedom Fighter

Hi Red

Welcome! I salute your courage! What you are going to embark on is not easy but will be one of the most important things you will ever do in your life. I can empathise with your situation - I used to have 101 excuses not to go to meetings, service etc., because like you, I knew my heart wasn't in it.

I agree with the other posters - it's not a good idea to confide in a witness teen - you could never be sure if they could alert others which would give you extra pressures.

Thinking about what you want in the future is a good way forward - going to college is a great way to do this, as you will need to create a new support network for yourself. It matures you as a person and you will find new friends who will provide friendship on a more purer dimension than the JWs.

What's important is that you don't fall into the trap of having to live a double life - I had to broach the subject with my mum, but picking the time and the moment was crucial.

There are lots of good people on here who can advise you - you have made the first steps, well done.

FF

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