Will:
Behave because someone has told you to and because you will be punished if you don't, not because you know it to be the right behavior for you.
To paraphrase the reasoning book: Not a Christian teaching.
The whole ethos of the "Doctrine of Grace" is that regardless of how "good" or "bad" you are, you can't earn favour with God, either before or after He begins dealing with you.
That seems to be a bit of a counter-culture to the argument of control that you seem to be espousing.
Thereafter your comments seem to generalise on religion per se. Is it truly "religion" that will cause these things, or isn't it rather human beings? Man has a propensity to violence as well as religion. Unfortunately the two often join themselves in the mixing pot of human experiece, along with a dash of politics.
May I ask, do you think that it'll be a Christian fundamentalist who will set off the first nuclear device?