I was in from 1988 - 2001. The first thing I did was make my son a birthday cake (2 days after his b-day). My husband has also left the borg. We are both at differing stages of exit but we are more intimate now in ways that were once forbidden. This may sound gross for some so close your eyes now...
but I cannot have an "O" without external stimulation. In other words I never had an "O" just by laying on my back. I would have to stimulate myself while having intercourse with my husband. I justified this in my mind as not masterbating because we were in the process of intercourse, but this was one of those things I was always sick about. Now we enjoy pleasing each other orally.
Ok...you can open your eyes now.