So much for "fading"... we're out! (page 2)

Tim Horton

Hi Guys,

I'm sooooo sorry to hear the news about Gina's mom. You both have been so supportive to Mr. Horton and I. We really appreciate it. I'm sorry I haven't called you. I guess I'm used to people saying things and not really meaning them. I haven't had the guts to call and yet I have so wanted to talk to Gina. I'm a big weiner I guess. Scared weiner. I feel like we're living very similar lives. I'm not on speaking terms with my Mom either due to the so called " truth " Isn't the truth supposed to set you free. Kind of ironic isn't it. I really feel for you guys. More than you will ever know. It hurts so bad, I almost don't feel the pain anymore. I'm starting to go numb. Mr. Horton and I tried the councelling but have ended up seperating. That's not the matter at hand thought. I'm worried about you guys. I know all to well what it's like to hide. I've been doing some speaking up for myself as well. It feels good but really horrible at the same time. Maybe you can relate. My thoughts and prayers are with you. I do still believe in a creator, God, at this point. Tune in tomorrow, as I may have changed my mind. The world is a funny, complicated, place. Smiles, Chris

Sunnygal41

We don't intend to give anybody a hard time, but we're not going to waste any of our precious life before a judicial committee, or explaining why the Watchtower's a cult to guys that will not be one bit budged by it. Screw a "letter", we're already out as far as we're concerned. They can tidy up the place themselves.

I am sooo happy for you two!!! And, welcome to the Board, by the way! I have always felt in my heart that the short and sweet routine is the best........but, I can certainly understand that some cannot do that. In my case, I went in to the committee and basically just told them not to waste any of their time. I had no desire to change my lifestyle or the way I was living my life. I was finally happy after soooo many years of bullshit, and to do what I knew they had to do. I walked out of there with a HUGE smile on my face and a million tons off my shoulders. My husband (soon to be ex) couldn't believe how happy I was! He is still in and remarried..........ah well, whatever floats your canoe....... Welcome to your NEW LIFE!!!!!!!

Terri

Preston

Hi Dave,

I just wanted to say that I read your post and I hope you and Gina rely on each other and on your friends, and maybe...even us as you go through this. I thought the whole idea of fading and leaving to actually be kind of a pain in the ass because its your life, and you don't need to go through the motions for a bunch of people who you share very little in common with. It's all theater as far as I'm concerned, its an act, a litmus test to identify who's the spiritual one, who's the weak one, who's the unselfish pioneer, who's good with shepharding calls... Thank god you guys are leaving, you guys sound too nice and too sicnere to still be in.

AlmostAtheist

Thanks for all your replies. They are really and truly appreciated.

Just like when we decided to leave mentally, there is an initial shock. Tears, anger, worry. Regret. "Am I doing the right thing?" Your brain tells you that there's just no other path to take. But your heart -- trained as it is to keep you doing whatever you've trained it to keep you doing -- tells you you're off course.

I'm just glad we came to this conclusion when we were in our 30's instead of our 60's. And more important still, glad our kids are getting out before the indoctrination really gripped them.

Thanks again, All.

Dave

Sassy

I know this is one of those bitter sweet things.. hiding your true feelings and actions is tough.. but losing family is heartbreaking....

but we have to live our lives...... because living a lie will eat us up too..

I am fading although barely..... I did admit to my mom about stopping all JW activities over a year ago.. (although I moved and never told my elders)... she immediately began the shun thing too.. and yes it hurts.. although less as time goes on..

I'm sorry for you both.... give Gina a hug for me

toreador

Just to let you know you have company. We are in the same boat. It is getting easier as time passes.

Take care you folks and don't let them get to you.

Tor

vitty

You may not think this now but god your lucky!

We desperatly want to make a clean break and get out, but we have grown up kids still in and I cant take the risk of shunning.

I am so full of remorse for not seeing the truth when our kids where little.

I know it must be hard for your wife, if her mother has stopped speaking already and im not trying to minimize it, but in our case although half my family are in the org, if it wasnt for my kids id leave and risk the shunning from them

The strain of leading a doulble life when you are fading is sometimes unbearable. When things get bad, just look at your children and their future and be happy youve done the right thing

Keep us posted and good luck

itsallgoodnow

I am really sorry for you and your wife. I can only imagine the pain you are both going through. For those of us who are still fading, it's something we dread all the time. I'm getting weary of always having to look over my shoulder, trying to evade the JW FBI. I only do it because the alternative is so sad.

I'll be thinking about you and your family.

Billygoat

(((((Dave and Gina))))))

I'm so sorry to hear about this...and at the same time I'm thinking, "Yay! Here they go!" I know it's painful - I've not had my parents in my life for 14 years. But the funny thing is that somehow you end up with more people in your life that want to take care of you like a parent. So really...I have more parents than I can handle. LOL! But they all love me, take care of me, and celebrate Life with me...what every good parent is supposed to do.

Today is the first day of the rest of your FREE lives!

Andi

Narkissos

((((Dave & Gina))))

Thinking of you... those are hard times, but I'm sure you won't regret it in the long run.

Take care,

Didier

So much for "fading"... we're out!

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